Re:OhMiGod... dominowin: The anger doesn't really come from the profile being up there...he has every right to be looking around after 7 months, same as me...it's just hard for me to believe he's now offering and putting something out there that he wasn't willing to give me, either physically or emotionally in terms of intimacy...it just makes me sick. You are all very right...I know that I'm not yet as emotionally disconnected from him as I need to be and it will take time. But the truth is I am glad I sent the e-mails. I've been super-polite to him this whole time and the anger has been eating me alive. I needed to let some of it out his way and I think he deserves to suck it up. God willing I won't always have to do that, I know it doesn't help in the long run.
Thanks for all your support as usual, y'all. :(
Re:OhMiGod... justmenow: You'll get better at channeling the anger. It is wasted on him because he doesn't care anymore. I learned to redirect my anger at innocent weeds in my yard and 2x4 pieces of wood in what used to be his office. I beat the cr@p out of the walls when he moved out and gutted the whole thing. I am re-doing it to reflect MY personality... :-) It's the best possible revenge.
Re:OhMiGod... finney5: Here's another thought. The guy is posting information that you know to be a lie! IF that's the truth, he's never going to find anyone from that profile. Yeah, he might go out on dates and stuff, but when they find out that he's NOT wild and crazy and all the stuff he says he is, but you know that he's not. Well, the girls'll drop him faster than a hot potato. THey too are looking for a specific person and don't want to end up with a dud.
Re:OhMiGod... dominowin: I like the idea of the 2x4's....seriously, how do you guys channel your anger? I get the feeling that it's just a matter of being patient until the angry feelings go away, but in the meantime I feel like I need constructive ways to let it out without stalking him and yelling at him. What do you all do? I've been physically active, which has helped...I've beaten pillows, stomped and cried...
Re:OhMiGod... justmenow: Wow, let me count the ways. There has been so MUCH anger. Here are some of the things I have done:
1. Taking to the walls with a hammer to do some demolition in preparation for my home remodeling of his office (I would NOT recommend just taking a hammer to any old wall, because drywalling is a pain in the butt.)
2. RUNNING! God, has this helped me. It is very hard to run and cry.
3. Sobbing. Gut wrenching, soul-cleansing, box-o-kleenex, pounding-a-pillow sobbing. Demanding (out loud) WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME? WHAT DID I DO????? It will subside and you will be exhausted and usually sleep. It's almost more exhausting than running!
4. Shopping for shoes. Always helps me feel better! :-) Coming home with THREE pairs of shoes and he is not here to criticize me. It's MY money now...
5. Chocolate (but only as a last resort because it negates #2).
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