Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs i_sing_alone: Well, if it's any consolation, I am atheist as well and thinking of homeschooling my daughter... and have been contemplating a waitressing job! So, if you need someone to talk to, I guess we're in the same boat.
You're right as far as *most* men not looking for that... but then again, who wants *most* men? Not me! ;D
PM me anytime... and I may have some homeschooling questions for ya- looks like I have to make up my mind quickly- registration for public school is very soon!!
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs hollygolightly: Pauly - No, the 2-4 year time frame is not a set in stone thing, but it is a realistic window for me. It took me 27 years to get married the first time. :)
Why do I seem so sure no one will be there? Hmmm. How can I explain so it makes sense? Okay, based on things other people tell me, here it is. During my pre-marriage dating years, I was not the kind of girl guys actually asked out. They looked. They stared. But they (so I'm told) assumed I already had a boyfriend or would say no to a date.
I expect it will be the same situation this time around. It's been several months since I've worn my wedding ring and they look, they stare, but no one asks. (Not that I'd go yet anyway, but it would be an esteem boost to be asked).
I know I sound hopeless, but I know me, I know my reality.
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs snowyheart: How will you ever meet that person?
Well, the serious relationships I've had are few(five), but, they came about not by my own effort to find someone, but just two people meeting happenstance and letting the chemistry and coversation take over, and just being me.
I fully expect that to happen again. I want to meet the next love of my life by just being me, not looking for her, not setting a time limit. Maybe I'll be 35, 45, maybe I'll meet her tomorrow(sweet!).
I was never one to make a list of what I want in a woman. I don't know what to expect from the next woman I fall in love with. I know I'll be wiser and more experienced though.
I love the idea of knowing that she's out there and at the right time we'll meet. That's why it's great to hold on to those dreams. Like the one's you have hollygolightly, of having kids, and a home, and wonderful husband that fits you perfectly.
But I understand the down days when everything seems hopeless.
take care everybody,
sunnyheart
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs tupsie: feel the same way . Try to be a good person and a good parent and you get kicked inthe teeth !I thhink there is a double standard for women! I guess we just have to hang inthere and waite for our prince charming or depend on only ourselves.
