Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs hollygolightly: LettinGo- LOL - I just got to work and had to turn off the radio on the way in because I started to cry - again. Pity party, table for one.
In my head, I know I'm a good - dare I say, great - person. But like you said, I look at the people whose spouses didn't leave and can't help but thing something is terribly wrong with me. My friends nag their husbands, are terrible housekeepers, terrible cooks, don't fix themselves up anymore and their husbands don't leave.
And don't even get me started with the prospects on match.com....GAA-ROOOSSS!
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs LettinGo: [quote author=hollygolightly link=board=20;threadid=10041;start=0#msg80099 date=1113397080">
My friends nag their husbands, are terrible housekeepers, terrible cooks, don't fix themselves up anymore and their husbands don't leave.
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EXACTLY!!
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Makes me wonder if there is some underlying problem with me that I don't see ... well, I know I am far from perfect. But no, I refuse to blame his cheating ways on myself. I was taking care of the kids, working, etc. while he was taking secret vacation time to meet and screw women he met online. Yuck.
Anyway ... Pity party, table for 2!
Kel
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs jillieb44: Makes me wonder if there is some underlying problem with me that I don't see ...
Uh, no, the problem is with HIM.
Jillie
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs 2tadpoles: My husband didn't cheat because anything is wrong with me. I was a good wife to him and a good mom. I wasn't one of those women who demanded total control of the purse-strings, forbid him from having friends or going out, or never wanted sex.
My husband looked for happiness outside of the marriage because things got stale, and he was too lazy and immature to work at making our marriage a happy one. He thinks happiness is a fish you can catch. He doesn't realize that marriage is work, and that happily-ever-after won't happen with anyone unless effort is expended.
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs ww9111: [quote author=2tadpoles link=board=20;threadid=10041;start=0#msg80247 date=1113417799"> He thinks happiness is a fish you can catch. He doesn't realize that marriage is work, and that happily-ever-after won't happen with anyone unless effort is expended.
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Perhaps I should have you call my stbxw and communicate that idea to her. She seemed to feel that since we got married and it wasn't perfect right away that it was ok to go cheat on me and destroy the marriage. All because in a period of one month things weren't perfect. ARGH! (Yes, she was cheating less than a month after we married)
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