Re:I'm so torn..need advice riversandlakes: you know "space and time" is dejavu, but you should also know that "still loves" and "let's be friends" are also dejavu materials...
listen, dazed, she is totally pissed at the all-important subject. a woman who is in love with you will nag you about the subject, not pissed at it...i'm sorry she appreciates your love not. so did ours...you are not alone.
let it go, for even when logic doesn't tango with affairs of the heart, listen to this one. it does. another exception to the rule. if there's a future, whether or not you let go, it will come to be.
Agree?
Re:I'm so torn..need advice AmyMarie1972: Hi,
I suggest that you begin to build a new life for yourself without her. This does not mean that you are giving up hope of ever getting back together with her, it just means that you are not going to wait around for her to make up her mind. That way you will keep both your heart and your head happy.
Then at least when she has figured out what it is that she wants you will either have your new life that you are happy with and her not wanting to come back will not be as big a blow or you will be the one deciding whether you want her to come back or not.
Good luck
Amy
Re:I'm so torn..need advice buyrbware: Amy you are so right................
Re:I'm so torn..need advice Daveinfla: I agree with Amy also. I was exactly where you are about 3 months ago, best friends the whole deal. My wife got her own apartment and I figured that's it. I'm going to move on. Not so fast, she decides she wants to date and I go for it. Now here I am 3 months later in the same freakin place "LIMBO". Yeah, moved back in the house for 3 or 4 weeks and then bolted again. We are in the middle of 2 weeks of no contact and next time we talk we are going to try to make some decisions. In the end yeah I feel like I have done everything I can to keep my marriage together on the other hand, if I would have left her alone I wouldn't be in LIMBO anymore. Take my story for what its worth but I recommend moving on with YOUR LIFE.
Re:I'm so torn..need advice timetobefree: [quote author=DazednConfused link=board=1;threadid=10048;start=0#msg80018 date=1113361191">
I am so lost right now, my heart is telling me to hold on, but my brain says it is time to move on. Which is right?
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Someone very smart (his name might be Kin!!!) told me a long time ago that the heart will eventually catch up with the head in situations like yours. He is right. When your heart is being broken, how much can you trust it?
It's like Amy said (great name!)...you need to build a life without her...and then either she will come back and you can make the decision or you will have worked towards a better life without her. And if you do this, you take back control of the situation from her, which I guarantee you, will help you start to heal. Feeling helpless is a big part of the pain in these types of situations. You are not helpless, but if you continue to let her control every aspect of the relationship, you are rendering yourself helpless.
HTH,
Amy ;D
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