Re:when will i ever learn snowyheart: I would never tell you to just find someone else. No way. You should never be with someone because you are lonely, or just because you think you HAVE to have someone all the time.
If you are just coming out of a marriage, or a serious long term relationship, you need to heal and deal first. That way you don't drag the unresolved crap from your last relationship into the new one.
To me, learning how to be alone again is a crucial step in the whole process of moving on.
Don't just look for another woman to jump into a relationship with, it ain't about that.
sunnyheart
Re:when will i ever learn riversandlakes: like sunny said, find yourself first. it hurts bad. sudden loneliness is scary, but think about it. what is there to fear? it's seemingly just in the mind...
hatred is a constant struggle. one moment i demand equal payment to be metted out, the next i seem to hit "emotional neutrality" and another i find myself wishing she is happy, for that is the greatest gift i can give...
i just wish the greatest gift - me - she could have been contented with ;(((
Re:when will i ever learn willow78: :( :-\I just don't know. But I do know you will always feel love for this person. They were ripped out of your life so suddenly, you never had time to know how to not love them. My divorce was final today, I am struggeling, and yes, I do love him, very very much. I also know that from what he has said to me, he will always love me a little, and I will have a place in his heart. We don't know what life has to bring our way,maybe things will work out, I don't know. No matter who I am with, they will never compare to my ex-husband, I HATE SAYING THAT!!!!!!!! But that is how much I love him, and that isn't going to change. I hope God will step in and make this wrong right. You need to be positive, and hold your head up. Take things one day at a time. Good luck!! I know you are going to need it.
Re:when will i ever learn riversandlakes: [quote author=willow78 link=board=1;threadid=10050;start=0#msg80703 date=1113514843">
I will have a place in his heart.
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goodness, those were her exact words in the text she sent me one of those final fights.
"even though you no longer consider me as a friend, you will always have a place in my heart."
i mean, whatever for? let that seat be rotten, let that place be cob-webbed, for nothing matters anymore.
the angry side of me thinks that's just an arrogant gesture of how "big" and mighty they think they are, but to walk out of a growing relationship (never abusive) on a first business trip is the lowest of all.
