Re:I'm in so much pain sad sad neko: ;) I'm sorry to hear of your pain it is very tragic I know my story is similar haha. I think our ex's might be twins hehe j/k. There are no words that will make the pain go away I can tell you that the only thing I can say is take care of yourself now more then ever. Don't worry I'm a firm beleiver in Karma and the world does turn. You won't always feel this horrible people are right when they tell you the pain goes away little by little, but five your self time to heal and grieve. I am currently on the count down if my ex doesn't call me by my b-day I have to just call him and tell him to get lost and never come back. It's funny because the minute you start feeling better they'll come back like a bad fungus trying to be nice for what reasons i don't know. DO NOT buy into his act. I know you love him and you feel like you're heart is on the floor, but sista pick it up and dust it of and start putting it together again you're a beautiful person his loss. It's sad when a person doesn't appriciate anothers love they're the ones who will never know TRUE LOVE like you have. The OW not to worry she's not living your life, but like everything in life they'll get comfortable and then he'll feel the same way so not worry. I do think you should just try to get your KITTY and things and start living again I know it's hard trust me I know. One thing I have learned from all my guy friends when women seem weak it's a bigger turn off so even if you don't feel like you're happy if and when you see or talk to him say you were right this was the best for both of us. That will bite him in the ass because now you have taken that power he thinks he has.
I hope I have been of some help sista you'll be fine just be strong and you'll see. 8)
Re:I'm in so much pain nebula: I share your pain....I really do. I am still trying to get over someone who is most likely cheating on me. I haven't officially caught him, I just know from many clues... rarely answers his phone when I call, he puts me on hold every phone call to answer someone else, he once was listening to his messages and I was sitting next to him..I could here another woman's voice saying "I call and call and call..." probably one of many other women he's seeing. Mysterially he has evening meetings with people who I never met... he says he was home when he really wasn't (I have proof of that) I guess I can go on. My point in this is he also said he would never cheat on me, unlike my ex who did. It is sadening since my heart was in the relationship 100%. I know he is out again with some woman tonight since I tried to call him (for a favor) and he hasn't answered. Anyhow, I guess we are all in this together, we feel your pain and anger. There are many other wonderul men out there who are honest and loving. I know it's not that easy to know who is really true, although we have to say to ourselves that we will look back on this and say "what was I thinking, letting him bring me down like this". By then he will want you back, and you will be happy with someone else. Just like my ex did... he lost me and regrets it. So chin up! Think of the futur and enjoy every moment since we only live once.... no time to waste.
Nebula ;)
Re:I'm in so much pain riversandlakes: dear bh,
four years here too. but those exact words can you try to use as a weapon. jerks utter those words. people who are completely selfish shouldn't be involved in relationships...
she said she is selfish and care only about her own happiness, but i didn't retaliate - i replied that i will never want her to stay just to make me happy. she can take that to heart and live with it. i gave the other cheek...
he confirmed his jerk status. good riddance for you, dear.
