~I Want A Love Like That!!!~ Sad Eyes: I just got done watching the movie "The Notebook"....well if you haven't seen it ....SEE IT! and if you have then you know exactly what I am talking about here.
Yes I did this to myself...watching a second time that is. I seen it when it first came out last summer on the big screen and cried in my popcorn! Now I have the movie and I had to watch it tonight ...thinking it wouldn't be that bad second time around. Well...it was if not worse! I cried on parts I didn't even cry on the first time around.
Now it's midnight and I am feeling really lonely and sad. I just hope someday I can find a love like that. I know they say movie romance is just that...a movie romance BUT I think people can have something very similar to that. I did once a long time ago and maybe that is why the movie gets to me. I miss having that kind of love with someone....someone who watches your back, somebody who will stick with you through thick and thin, somebody to love you the way these people did in the movie. Watching made me realize how sad I am that I don't have that with my stbx and I probably never really did. I just wish after all this time that he could have been the one. It would have made 14 years and 2 children later...so much more worth it and easier on the heart. :-\
Tonight I cried because I was mourning my old love and I cried because I was mourning the love I never had with my stbx. I guess in a way I was crying because I don't know if I will ever know love like that again and maybe the memories will have to hold me for a life time. :(
Just at a hard place right now....knowing I need to move forward for myself but yet still feeling stuck and not wanting to move but knowing I have to because my sanity, well being and happiness depend on it. :(
All I know right now is one thing........
I want a love like that.... :-[
SE
Re:~I Want A Love Like That!!!~ snowyheart: Hey sadeyes,
How are ya? You know, I've actually rented the notebook 2 times per suggestions here at ojar. But each time I start the movie I realize that, I really can't handle an ultra-love story like that. Not at this juncture in my life. And I love love stories and Spark's work. I'll watch romantic comedies, but this movie sounds a little too close to home.
It seems like there are a few people here that are really struggling with the moving on/letting go process right now. It's so complicated and personal. I was so, so bad 4 weeks ago, something happened though, I don't know what exactly.
I think my heart just finally told me, "you've grieved enough, now move on". I don't mean to over-simplify what you are going through though, it's all very personal.
I know you'll move forward, and you will be happy.
You make people happy and happiness will come back to you.
take care
sunnyheart
Re:~I Want A Love Like That!!!~ sacoderisa: Ironic, I saw that movie with my ex.....and when she said, THERE IS NOT A LOVE LIKE THAT!, i just looked her in the eyes and told her: "That's why we don't work, you don't realize what's in front of your nose" and I left, needless to say, we split a couple of weeks after that...for the second and final time.
I love her that way, even after all she puts me trough. Kinda sux
Re:~I Want A Love Like That!!!~ Sad Eyes: Thanks Sunnyheart~
I hear what you are saying about the movie and watching it at this time in my life. I almost turned it off several times but I am the type of person who hardly ever cries and in a way I made myself watch it so I would have to deal with what is going on right now in the present. Does that make sense? I am good at smiling even though I am going crazy inside or so I thought....my family informed me otherwise so maybe that isn't so true anymore. :-\
I had my fill for that movie now and I will hold off on watching it for a while. :)
I am sorry you are going through a hard time too BUT I am happy you are feeling a change inside yourself! You are moving onto the next phase. That is so good! Maybe not mourning the way I should be is keeping me stuck...so to speak. This sucks huh? Either way...I would like to think that if I make people happy that happiness will come back to me but what do you do when you have tried to make your partner happy and in the end you end up losing out on your happiness. I guess I just answered my own question here...you walk away.... :-\
I should go to bed...I am scaring myself here now! :)
Thanks Sunnyheart!!!
SE
Re:~I Want A Love Like That!!!~ Sad Eyes: Sacoderisa~
Yeah!!! You believe in a love like that too??? I tried to be that for my stbx too...but it has to go both ways otherwise one has it made in the shade and the other one ends up really unhappy and very unfullfilled. :-\
Everybody needs to find somebody who can meet them halfway. :)
SE
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