When did you start to meet 'new people'? netty_girl: I know it is different for everyone, but I was just wondering how long you waited before going out with friends to meet 'new people'?
I have a friend from high school who just called me the other night for the first time in 2 years, and had heard about the divorce being filed. She is going through the same thing, and she suggested going out one of these weekends..what do you think?
I am not in search for a new love right now, but she said it would be good for me to make new friends. I just dont know if going out would be the best way to make new friends.
Netty
Re:When did you start to meet 'new people'? richmds: Just go out, you dont necessarily have to look for someone.
I tried getting out immediately just to keep busy. And met some people along the way. Not really anything serious but it still helps and can aid in the healing process.
Re:When did you start to meet 'new people'? tyrogers: The next weekend without my children, I was out. God bless good friends! :D
BBH
Re:When did you start to meet 'new people'? jillieb44: I finally saw the writing on the wall at the end of last summer and we separated (in-house so as not to disrupt the kids' lives while we figured stuff out) but it was over way before then, like YEARS. I started poking around internet dating sites just before Christmas, so it was 4 months after we separated.
I didn't go on any dates until Jan, and the first guy is just a friend now, we like hanging out and stuff, but that's it. I met another guy about a month and a half ago and we're a bit more serious about each other.
Before I met the second guy I was torn; I'd recently (finally!) moved out with my kids, but part of me secretly hoped the stbx would see the light and get the help he needed. But it's been obvious there is no hope for reconciliation now so I'm moving forward with dating and having fun. I realize I'm probably rebounding, but this guy is awesome, totally understanding, and patient (as well as fun to be with) so I'm just going with it.
But then, the last 10 years with the stbx were horrible and it's clear he doesn't love me, and I came to terms with that a while ago, so for me, for now, the time seems right. Spring is in the air....
Jillie
Re:When did you start to meet 'new people'? Beren: This divorce has been the most lonely experience I've ever had. I moved nearly 1,000 miles away to be with her, leaving my family and all my friends behind. Her family became my family, and her friends became my friends. With the divorce, I lost all of that. I was completely on my own.
I moved out in March of '04 into a rather crowded apartment complex. Usually, I like my space, but for some dumb reason, I had it stuck in my head that somehow we were going to work things out, and the separation was only temporary, so I just went with a relatively cheaper place, even if it was more crowded.
That turned out to be a good move. I don't consider myself very outgoing, but I did make an effort to talk with my neighbors, and I ended up making some nice new friends. It feels weird sometimes, when I think about it. These friendships are not very old, but they do seem very solid. I feel disconnected from my past. I think about things that happened only two years back and it feels like a lifetime ago. But one thing's for sure. New friends are much better than no friends.
If I were to recommend how one should go about making new friends, I'd say the best first step is to put yourself where other people are. Hmmmmm... I guess that's not rocket science... I hope no one was reading this waiting for some real profound observation! LOL!
Grizzly Beren
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