Re:My Wife left me 3 days ago . . . Adam: Thanks I'll look in to it.
Re:My Wife left me 3 days ago . . . Jernigan: Wow, what to say, Adam? I'm very sorry for you, but I know that doesn't do you very much good now. Know, however, that there are many supportive people here at Ojar who've helped me slog through my tough times. I recommend coming here and getting whatever you need to off your chest.
That being said, your wife's behavior certainly sounds bizarre, unfathomable---is she truly, as her sister contends, suffering some kind of breakdown? Or has this turn of events been in slow development all along? From the sound of things, yours was a healthy household, and she gave you every indication of it being such. You sound like you are a good husband---which is a hell of a lot more than many people can say.
I hope all of this gets sorted out as soon as possible for you---and I think it shows tremendous strength of character that even in your first post your primary concern was your children.
Re:My Wife left me 3 days ago . . . Adam: All I can say for sure is that when she made the decision to leave she was crying uncontrollably, vomiting, hyper-ventilating and almost passed out.
I think it was building for at least 2 years (maybe more). But when it broke it was devastating to all 4 of us.
And yes very bizarre. She didn't talk to her parents at all about her feelings (they are very close). She didn't talk to her friends, me, anybody. She just broke.
This is totally unlike her. She is usually much more strong than this - though now I'm starting to wonder if that wasn't just a facade.
I don't know. I'm just VERY confused.
Re:My Wife left me 3 days ago . . . JASPER: Well Adam all I can say is for someone who was the leaver she sure carried on pretty bad ,but none the less she went.
You said you think it was building over the last two years what gives I'm curious as to what gave you the indication of that?
You said it was odd she didn't talk to her parents about leaving people usually dont talk to people about things they know they proably wouldn't agree with.
Maybe this is some kind of breakdown or something she's having since you say she is usaully a lot stronger,but now you must concentrate on being strong for yourself as well as your kids.
Re:My Wife left me 3 days ago . . . Adam: Well, My 1st indication was the day after she leveled me with the news.
She brought up things I had said in previous fights - Things I didn't really mean -but, things I had said none the less.
Some of it was real old stuff some not so old.
But, it all came out. And I was surprised that she was still clinging to these words so strongly. She let on like we'd kissed and made up and were working through things like any normal couple.
I mean seriously 2 weeks ago we were good (i thought). Very normal, very loving, very caring and considerate.
Then in 2 weeks time it just went terribly fast down the tubes. We were not even fighting. Our last fight was over 2months ago.
This is just so NOT RIGHT!
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