Once a liar.....always a liar kissingkim: So last December, I had to bail my stbx out of jail. He was supposed to sign the divorce papers that day, and instead was arrested, so my attorney convinced me to bail him out to avoid any delays. Well, I stopped at our house on the way, and his yahoo instant messenger was up and full of IM's from other women. I wrote down his screen name, and looked it up later (I just couldn't help myself). I was so NOT suprised to see he was lying already on his profile, he is saying he is over 10 years younger than he is, among other things. Seeing that he lied about his age to me too, right up until I saw our marriage liscence, it just cracked me up.
I kept the screen name in my favorites, and sometimes check it to see what else he might be coming up with.
So here is where evil Kim comes in.......I recieved a ton of very mean emails from him yesterday, many of which attacked my sister and mom, and at that point, sis and I created a screen name to play with him. I KNOW, it is not nice....
We sent him a add contact message, and I logged on this morning and he approved me.
In SEVEN minutes of conversation, he lied to me THREE times.
1. I asked him how long he had been divorced, he said two years....um.....it has been four months since we were divorced, 8 months since we seperated.
2. I asked his age, he said, YUP, he was 40. He turns 51 this year.........and he really looks it.
3. I asked how many kids he has....he said one, our little boy who is six. He has SIX!!!!!
So this was very sad to me, I kept it cool and didn't stay on very long. I mean, how sad is it that our marriage was ruined because he was such a liar, and it is continueing? And how much sadder that he denys the existence of 5 of his children? He did this to me too, I didn't know he had two kids from a previous marriage until we had been married 4 months! I can not imagine pretending one of my children didn't exist. I still have trouble not saying I have 5 kids when asked, always tripping over myself explaining I have three step kids that I love like my own, even if they aren't mine any longer.
Out there, in the dating world, there are liars all around. Seeing how easy it was for him to spew his lies made my cynicism rise up and want to spit. I have already taken myself off any personal ads I had out there, it is too hard to believe anything they tell me. And why the heck do I even care that he is still a liar? Isn't that why I divorced him?
GRRRRRRRR
I would love to teach him a lesson, and I know it isn't my place, but it is so tempting. Someone talk me out of it, quick.
Re:Once a liar.....always a liar tyrogers: Don't do it! Just let him lead his life of lies. Trust me, sooner or later it will catch up with him and he will get his.
(((BIG BIG HUGS)))
BBH - Tyleena ("Ty")
Way Down South in 'Bama
