Update on 2 Weeks No Contact Daveinfla: We had separate meetings with the counselor on Tuesday. My wife called on wednesday and said after her counseling session she went to the pub around the corner to see if I was there; I wasn't. She continued to talk about getting our taxes out and then went on for a few minutes of small talk all on my voice mail. I didn't return the call. She called later that afternoon and sounded frustrated at first asking about the taxes again and then just before she hung up it sounded like she was about to cry. I called and left a message that the taxes are under control. Later that night she called and left a message wanting to know about plans for July 4th and could we meet for lunch on Friday or should we stick it out for the whole 2 weeks and finshed with "if you call me back I will probably answer the phone. I did not call back. Then another call this morning about lunch on Friday this morning. I called back when I knew she would be busy and couldn't answer and told her I don't think we should meet for lunch lets wait and I will talk to her in a couple of days. That was hard I really wanted to see her but I think this is for the best. My guess is it's going to make her mad at first but hopefully she will get over it. Did I do the right thing or should I have caved in and met her for lunch?
Re:Update on 2 Weeks No Contact DazednConfused: Stay strong and stick to your guns! I'm on day 2 here and I know how tough it is! As you yourself told me, stay strong and don't cave in.
Re:Update on 2 Weeks No Contact irishman33: dave~
you can do it, we have faith in you. i know it's hard right now, but it's for the best. i have started day two as well after a six day hiatus. she sent me an email yesterday explaining that she would have her mobile phone on her just in case i tried to call her. we can stand strong.......
irish
Re:Update on 2 Weeks No Contact Daveinfla: Thanks guys! It's hard, in the last few phone calls I've heard her angry and I heard her cry a little. Even though she has caused me pain it's difficult to hear her apparantly struggling.
Re:Update on 2 Weeks No Contact LostTeacher: i know the feeling. being an emotional girl all of a sudden, i am finding that i can't talk to my stbxh on the phone, because i just want to cry. and yesterday, when i did super cry, i could hear him sniffling too. and that just made me want to push harder, because i could hear emotion in his voice, and i haven't heard that in a long time. but the message was the same, that he wasn't coming back, that i couldn't get him to change, and that i have to deal with my hurt. he's sorry, but he can't make me stop hurting. and you know what.... he can't. only i can do that. and believe me, that's what i am now going to try to do.
be strong. stick to your word. but think of this... what are you really trying to get out of "no contact"? because maybe what you really need to do is the contact, get things out in the open, and really deal with them. i did the no contact, but because of my circumstances, that wasn't going to work for a while.... and i actually needed the contact, and the talking, and the crying.... and the truth.... to be able to look today, and think about moving on.
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