Re:Update on 2 Weeks No Contact confusedinca:
Sounds like you're a little better at the "no contact" thing than she is. A little :). I say stick to your agreement, it's only a couple more days. She should respect you more in the long run if you don't cave in. Good Luck!
Re:Update on 2 Weeks No Contact ww9111: I never really needed no contact but I do find that I am exposed to less of her goofiness if I don't communicate with her.
It has been 22 days since our last email exchange and I'm curious to know if she's changed her mind on signing the Affidavit of Consent yet but won't ask, I'm just going to wait and see if she signs it and sends it to me.
It's been since February 11 that I last saw or spoke with her... And only 25 days to go until the first day I can file my affidavit of consent to finalize my divorce.
Re:Update on 2 Weeks No Contact jt5639: I say try your best to stick with your plan - but if you don't, don't be too hard on yourself. This may be a mixed message. I think we all have to try different things in terms of contact to see what works for each of us. Some of us want nothing to do with our ex, some want to be good friends, some just want family outings with the kids.
So...stick with it to see if that's what works for you guys. Maybe it's really that 1 1/2 weeks is better - talk about it at the end.
Now, playing my own devil's advocate: This is a crazy roller coaster we are all on, and sometimes I think we just need to be true to what we're feeling in the moment. And sometimes that means calling when it was agreed you wouldn't.
My ex and I have talked about this roller-coaster and are allowing for each other to act on the moment. The catch - the other has to ok with it too. If I'm not supposed to talk to him until Saturday, but call on Thursday - I need to be ok if he doesn't want to talk then. And he also needs to be ok if maybe I decide on Saturday that I don't feel like seeing him.
I'm not sure if I'm explaining it well. Basically, I think it's going to be trial and error in finding out the best contact situation with our exes.
