Re:I don't understand men. Bob-Bob: Hey marjie,
Yeah but instead of directing the questions at men, direct them at yourself.... I'd like to hear how women would answer them if they were asked by a guy!!!
Bob
Re:I don't understand men. INCT: I'll add my 2 cents
1. I have told women that I'm not interested. If I say that I'll call, I do. I have never understood the "i'll call" and then people don't. I know I don't like it.
2. stalking.. I never have been stalked.. I don't think.. nor have I ever stalked.. I think I can tell when someome isn't interested and I just drop it. I wouldn' t consider someone a stalker if I said I would call and didn't.. they would have a right to call me until I gave them a straight answer.
3. Too busy. Women who are too busy, or need to pencil you in. Eventually the job becomes more important that life. The career is always more important (or feel that they are defined by a job) if you are not willing to be with a person (not all the time) but only on your schedule.. then you need to find someone else.. Ha and she did!
3B. I also said that I would never get involved with a teacher.. (however I am now) the reason is that other peoples children and homelife becomes more important than yours. at all hrs of the day or night..
4. doesn't matter.
5. Drop them like a stone.. no cheaters allowed, been down that road and will not go through it again..
INCT
Re:I don't understand men. Cyn: OK I will try to answer s honestly as possible, from a womens prospective...
1. I admit I have a hard problem with this, I try really hard to be upfront with a guy about how I feel. But alot of the time I really don't want to hurt you, I know I know that is lame and honesty is what I need so I should give it. I'm working on it.. ;)
2. If I guy continues to call, or email me after I have told him I have no interest in a friendship or a relationship yeah I would be a little spooked and I might consider him a stalker.
3. A major turn off would be clingyness, lack of self confidence or just plain obnoxious.
4. Hair color doesn't realy matter to me, honestly I love military cuts or just completely shaved.
5. My trust would be destroyed, and I believe that trust in a relationship is everything. I really don't think I could ever get over it enough to continue.
Re:I don't understand men. Brian75034: Guess its my turn:
1. Its the game one has to play- the dating game. If you are lucky , they will be honest with you. But, for the most part, people dont like conflict- men AND women. Most probably think that if they just ignore the person, the "problem" goes away. And on the other foot, ive had women give me the brush off after awhile and it sucks. I would love it if women could be totally honest too.
2. not a stalker just desperate and probably low self esteem. That is assuming the guy is not leading her on with false signals.
3. she was too clingy. Wanted to be involved in my entire life and drop everything after just a few dates.
4. Doesnt matter. I need to be attracted to them but my "requirements" involved her personality, not her hair color. For ex: my ex wife was about a 4' 9" tiny, non athletic, brunette, little curves, small/avg chest. My currect girlfriend is blonde, 5'5", very athletic, very curvy and large chest. About as opposite as they can get. So, again, for me its not about a certain look- I think that limits ones potential date and more.
5. It would be VERY hard to trust. I would have to ask more questions as to WHY they cheated, what have they learned from it. I would need to judge whether I would think they would do it again.
Re:I don't understand men. JimB: [quote">
1. If you (meaning the "collective YOU") aren't interested in a woman, why don't you just tell her? Do you think we're going to be scarred for life? Why is it "I'll call you" then you don't or "I'll email you" then you don't or "I'll talk to you later" and then you don't? Do you somehow find this to be humane?[/quote">
Erm...I could turn this question right back on women.
This one ain't about gender - it's about the common courtesy involved in being real instead of being "nice". Of course, in my case, I'm interested in almost everybody on one level or another, so I hate to close doors. But I always tell people if I don't want to get emotionally involved.
Also, honesty and straightforwardness are exceedingly important to me. If someone can't be honest and straightforward enough to tell me she's not interested, I don't feel like I've lost very much.
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2. If a woman continues to contact you because you haven't called, emaied or talked to her in a few weeks, do you consider her a stalker? If so, WHY?[/quote">
Again, this has nothing to do with gender. I've run into this situation myself. No matter what kind of person you really are, people are going to read different signals from your actions. That's why I'm trying to let go of what people think about me.
But to answer the question, I wouldn't consider her a stalker unless I had told her in so many words that I wasn't interested in her.
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3. What is the first thing about a woman that would turn you off completey or scare you away?[/quote">
Neediness/clingyness or a loudly ticking biological clock.
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4. Do you prefer blondes, brunettes or redheads?[/quote">
I prefer women with brains, taste, and balance.
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5. If you found out a that the person you are seeing had cheated on someone in the past, would you trust them with a future relationship with you?[/quote">
Tough one. I would do my best to let the past remain in the past, but would keep my eyes open for danger signs.
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