Re:Miserable ostia: Yeah, I think I could never trust him again even if he did come back. Also, my pride should prevent me from considering it...it really is as if he's saying, well, if things don't work out with her maybe I'll come back to you. ("Maybe I'll find out that I can't live without you, he actualy said to me!!)
I am doing better overall these days...I have good days and bad days, but more good than bad lately. I think it's because I'm slowly starting to come to terms with things, and also because I made the decision to go on an antidepressant about a month ago, and I think it's starting to work. I debated with myself a lot about whether or not to go the medication route, but I'm now glad I did...it's really clearing my head and getting me out of the mire of misery I was in, so that I'm able to move forward with my life rather than lying on the couch in a puddle of pain and unhappiness.
I think the things that are helping most in allowing me to start to let go are: realizing how much of a jerk my H really is being, and 2) going out on a couple of dates, and seeing that there are other fish in the sea ;D !
Re:Miserable ml1077: I hear you and feel your pain....BUT, if he is moving in with the OW and continuing to hurt you, you need to move on...
You deserve better than to be someone's "back up plan." I went through a similar things and when I felt bad, I would tell myself, "There's is someone out there who would not do this to me."
You need to take control and lay down the law.
Good luck- I wish you the best.
Re:Miserable justmenow: Ostia, I'm so sorry you're struggling with this - I really hope you find some closure on this. It's so hard right now, I know, but you will find your footing and begin to move forward a stronger and wiser person. You sound like a genuinely good person and you will come out of this on top, I just know it! Good luck to you!
