Re:Hate? EfemII: INCT,
I was thinking about this same thing today. I know I don't hate my ex, but I haven't fully forgiven her either. I've only seen her one time since our divorce 15 months ago, and if I saw her again it would be too soon. I saw her at the health club we had both belonged to back in March, and I went into the club today thinking I would spot her. As I worked out, I was thinking on what I would say, and it didn't even phase me. I would probably just stand and listen to her complain about her money woes and how she's still trying to find herself, just like the 1st time I'd seen her.
I am much better able to handle seeing her now, then I was back in March. Even though I don't have a girlfriend, I now have more friends than I ever had. My family has always backed me, and that helps the healing process. I think I'll be healing from this divorce for a while. I'm not going to put a timetable on it.
I hope you have a better week! You're not the only one who feels this way bud.
Dave
Re:Hate? notmyself: my mom and sister tell me i need to get mad, cuss him out and what not... essentially hate him. but i don't.. in a twisted way i am grateful to him for leaving so i could start living again. my life, no matter the struggle now, is so much better than it was before. i wish i could hate him, i know i should.... but maybe i have forgiven him...
Re:Hate? INCT: Thanks all for the info, and support. I have to admit I thought I was going crazy. I thought that I was the only one who felt this way.
I'm not quite at pity, but more sad for her. I also think that I am sad for me, I wish I could ask her.. (and get a truthful answer) Was it worth it? .. really... was it worth it?
I slip back and think to myself.. oooh X.. what have you done now...
anyway, thanks for the help
INCT
Re:Hate? Brian75034: at one point in my divorce, I had more hate towards my ex than anyone else every in my life. It was almost a scary type of hate.
Now, none.
My ex leaving me was the best thing she could have done for me.
My life is truly better now than it was before.
