Re:First post-divorce wedding... grober: I attended a wedding last month (7 months post divorce). I had some reservations going in, but the ceremony wasn't that bad. I felt like Jimb. Being alone before and after the wedding was the worst part. Almost everyone was part of a couple. Even that wasn't that bad. I've gotten used to those feelings.
The weirdest thing was sitting there wondering if I would ever be at the altar again. This particular wedding was the bride's second marriage.
Re:First post-divorce wedding... justmenow: Great! I just got a wedding invitation in the mail. I want to go because she is a co-worker of mine, but also a bit apprehensive. Maybe I could take a friend as a date? That would work I suppose? Any suggestions? I really don't want to go alone.
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Great! I just got a wedding invitation in the mail. I want to go because she is a co-worker of mine, but also a bit apprehensive. Maybe I could take a friend as a date? That would work I suppose? Any suggestions? I really don't want to go alone.
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The 1st wedding I went to I took a friend. She didn't really fit in (was a co-worker of my mom's), and it was a bit awkward. She mostly went because I needed a ride there! ;)
Second wedding, I had so many friends that were invited, I didn't need to include anyone else. I wouldn't personally want to attend a wedding alone, in which I knew very few people.
Re:First post-divorce wedding... atd74: I have a wedding to attend to on Oct. 18th and I am actually looking forward to it! And I'm not bringing anyone. I see this as an opportunity to meet different people and who knows what could happen?
The way I look at is this: If I brought a guy who was just a friend and someone happened to be there who was single and wanted to dance or talk to me he probably wouldn't because he would get the impression that the friend was a serious relationship.
Sometimes it's hard to face these kinds of events alone but I think you grow more as a person standing on your own two feet without any kind of a crutch to hold you up. It forces you to get to know people and to have to put yourself out there. Chances are if you don't know anyone else at the wedding you will be sat at a table with other singles or people who don't know anyone else either.
I say go for it alone! You don't want to miss your friends big day...
Re:First post-divorce wedding... finney5: I, too, am going to my first post-divorce wedding on Oct 24th. I'm going alone (it didn't occur to me to invite anyone to go with me), but I also know another couple that're going and they, like me, only know the bride and groom. They don't really know anyone else. So I'm going to be part of that group since we're all in the same boat there. I don't think it'll be too difficult. I can segment stuff, like, I know that their marriage is not my marriage and I know so many people who have been able to make it work.
