How do you start dating?? Cyn: Ok I might get the stupid question of the day award for this, but I gotta tell you I haven't had to date since I was 17 years old. Where do you start, I mean I don't even know if men find me attractive or not. Any Ideas??
Re:How do you start dating?? justmenow: I posted a couple of ads on the personals websites (Yahoo and Match.com) and had some pretty good results (and some pretty wierd results, so be prepared). After a couple of months of trying to "keep up" (dealing with the rejection and dealing with some of my own wounds leftover from the divorce), I un-posted myself and decided to let things go for a while. Who knows, maybe I'll meet someone the old fashioned way? Like, in person maybe? <gasp>
There is no such thing as a dumb question. Who would have thought ANY of us would have had to keep up with the finer points of dating? Good luck, just make sure you are ready for this. I mean, really ready.
Re:How do you start dating?? finney5: I'm wondering the same thing. I haven't dated in 7 years and even then it was different because I was in college. There's not so many frat parties and keggers here in the real world. ::)
I tried puting my pic out there on the web and had these 40 and 50 year old guys responding, so I took them down. That's not the response that I'm looking for. I'm also discovering that I'm fairly picky, so meeting someone in person is a necessity. And blind set ups suck.. I've already been victim to one of those.
Re:How do you start dating?? atd74: I think a lot of us began dating again after the divorce using a website or two. I am making the rounds on a few just to get a flavor of who's out there. On on my third website right now... I have had the opportunity to meet some different people. However, I think after my month is up with this latest website I am going to try something new - as JMN said - meeting people the old fashioned way through chance or similar interests.
The first time you start dating again, no matter how you do it is rough. Like JMN said, make sure you are ready emotionally and mentally. If you are nervous and scared that's ok - but if you still have too many lingering issues from your past then try to work through those a bit more on your own before jumping into something you aren't ready for.
After your first date you'll get the hang of it and you'll begin to like meeting new people and you'll want to do it again. There are other ways besides the internet: Try volunteering, joining a special interest "club" - whatever you do... just get out there! If you are ready go for it! You could meet someone in the most unsuspecting way or place. And remember to be yourself and let your great personality show through no matter where you are. People tend to gravitate towards others who emit a sort of glow...
Good luck!
Re:How do you start dating?? Cyn: Thanks for the advice. I am not sure I am completely ready for a relationship, but I can't see the harm in dating casually. I have thought about the internet thing, but wasn't sure how many wierdos I would find... ::)
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