Re:Do You Ever Feel All Alone? TiredandScared: JMN, thanks, I know in my head everything is getting better all the time (hey isn't that a song) but its truely my heart thats hurting. This is truely the first time in my entire life I have been alone. From home to college to the service to married. I think thats a big part of it. I guess now I need to find a place that I WANT to work at, and see if they have openings. I really only want to work a job like this on Fri/Sat nights, but doesn't everyone in the bar scene. I don't think I could bartend cause I don't know how to make to many drinks, but I'm a quick study.
Thanks for the words of support you have no (or maybe some) idea how nice it is to talk to someone about this stuff.
Re:Do You Ever Feel All Alone? justmenow: That's what's so great about OJAR - EVERYBODY out here completely understands what you're going through because we're all in different stages of the same process. We all come here tired and scared, and end up lending a helping hand to those who need us once we're in a "better place". It seems to be a common process around here and I owe much of my recovery to the people on this board. It's the least I can do to give back, because when I have a bad day (and I WILL...) everyone is always here to catch me.
Re:Do You Ever Feel All Alone? Feisty: I totally understand. I didn't have that great a support group to start off with-my friends are not the kind to really 'be there' (except for one or two, but they are out of state/country), and my family is rather distant. It took me two months to face the fact that my marriage was going to fail, and accept it before I confronted my s2bx. Then I had to move back home from overseas. That was tough, but at least it was somewhat shortlived, but I was totally unprepared for the lack of support that I faced once I returned home. So to answer your question, emphatically yes, but it sounds like we are not truly alone on this site.
Re:Do You Ever Feel All Alone? picadilly: Tired, I understand your pain. While I've only been separated for less then a week, nights are the hardest time. I've started watch allot more TV now & when i go to bed... I am not ashamed to say this but I say good night to my wife, where ever she is. I still miss her.
My circle of friends has shrunk too, as she was the social butterfly, now I have only a few people I can talk to but I still have family that loves me & will help me out.
I have signed up with a divorce support group, maybe that will help me meet new people & help me get over my loss.
Good luck with yours.
Re:Do You Ever Feel All Alone? bryce:
GOD YES!!! *Very* alone, every minute of every day! I crave sleep, just to be able to *not* feel pain and lonliness!
And I have three kids, and everyone tells me to focus on them, and I try, but *sometimes* I NEED adult company! My parents can't understand my feelings, and berate me for them!
And my ex even berates me for feeling lonely - when she has a *boyfriend*, and the kids 3 & 1/2 days a week!!! She says she "envies" me! "So try it then!", I say.
- bryce
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