Trust AloneandCold: Ok so I was reading some profiles on a dating web site and I came across something that made me curious what you all would think.
Trust; Should you trust until you are given a reason not to; or should you not trust until you are given a reason to trust?
Re:Trust Smiley17: I'm at the point where I won't trust (fully) until given a reason to.
I've done the on-line dating thing and have found that you can't trust too easily at first. Giving the benefit of the doubt is one thing, but fully trusting? That's a whole other issue right there.
I think trust has the be earned, but that's only my opinion. You can get hirt too easily if you trust too soon.
-KB
Re:Trust snowyheart: For me...I would say that I don't readily trust like I used to.
Before, I would always give the women I was involved with the benefit of the doubt. But now...I realize that, often, the moment you put your full trust into someone...it get's shattered.
So now, I'm just cautious....actually, ultra-cautious.
It's like stepping out into a fire fight w/o your flack jacket on...after you get shot a time or two...you'll start wearing it everywhere you go.
Re:Trust tyrogers: You know.....I was at that point. But then I realized something........why shelter your heart and soul from that feeling of love? You can never know 100% if that person will "do you wrong". You just have to live and learn. After all, it is better to have loved....
Sometimes, you have to give your all...even if that is not enough. If that person leaves you or cheats or whatever....they were not right for you to begin with. If they do not realize what they have....you don't need them.
Hurt is a part of life. It only makes you stronger. You cannot shelter yourself from it. Nature takes its course. Now, I will never shelter myself from love or the feelings that love creates. Give it your all....whether it ends in a lifetime of love...or just a few months.....
Just my two cents.....
BBH - Tyleena ("Ty")
Way Down South in 'Bama
Re:Trust snowyheart: I with you on that bbh....However, staying with my war analogy....when your fresh from battle, with wounds still bleeding....it's hard to send the soldier right back out there.
In time, when the wounds are healed, I'm sure I'll be right back out there putting my heart on the line.
happiness to you bbh :)
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