Re:Trust jen: I think it's different when looking at someone's dating profile and considering the issue of trust versus trusting someone you have already met and have able to get a gut feeling about.
Sometimes online dating profiles state a person's perception of themselves and/or what they would like to think of themselves as being or even what they think someone might want to hear.
I'm with you, Jillie, blind trust that everybody is 100% on the up and up doesn't make sense to me. At the same time, there is a clean slate with trust for every new person I meet and I generally trust until I'm given a reason not to...
I think trust is an ongoing development, but I'll admit that I tend to go with my instinct mostly, so if I'm in for a penny, I'm in for a pound...
Re:Trust Shanna: I had up one heck of a wall around my heart and my trust. Frid broke the wall to my heart and chips away to make me trust him more and more each day.
Re:Trust gumby55555: This is a HUGE issue for me... I'm realizing just how much damage I sustained in my last relationship because of how I'm behaving with the girl I'm currently going out with. I think it's the idea of trusting women, in general, that holds me back now. I was in a very messed up relationship that completely destroyed my sense of trust in women, in particular, and possibly people, in general. I always prided myself on associating with honourable, trust-worthy people but, after that experience, it's hard not to think that I was perhaps deluding myself. After all, I picked this person... I either didn't see the signs or somehow managed to fool myself into not accepting the signs... regardless, there's some failing on my part in not being able to identify the true character of a person.
So now I sit there with the girl I'm currently seeing and can COMPLETELY feel myself holding back... not revealing everything, not being involved totally... automatically reacting in loving ways but, as soon as conscious action kicks in, disclosing naught but a shell of who I am... wondering how to tell whether she's actually trustworthy or if I'm just being gullible again. I see lies and deceit in most of what people do... and if that perception's accurate, it's comforting that I can spot it at least. What worries me is when I *can't* see it and it's there...
One school of thought is that everything in life's a chance and to go with it; but the opposing perspective is that I'm being a victim if I don't consider my part in failing to identify deceit or misdirection. It's simply not true that someone can completely fool you or take advantage of you for any non-trivial length of time without your cooperation, at least in part... so what the hell was wrong with me that I didn't pick up (or purposefully ignored) the signs??? I admit, it's a fine line between skepticism and cynicism... and it's one I'm having trouble walking now...
Re:Trust ti-poux: At this point, I would not even trust my own judgement on trusting someone.
Wounded pretty hard.
Too trusting I was...that is why until I am fully recovered I am not willing to open up.
As far the the internet dating...I don't really belive in that...its like looking to fill a void...it seems desperate.
Not BBH & Bubba....this is not a dating site so you guy's don't count...lol...you didn't come here looking you came here for support!!!
I am about to be replaced by an oversea's Phillipine
mail order bride...WOW!!! I guess I wasn't all that...
Ouch that hurts!!! :'(
One day, when I am ready I will trust again, for without trust one can become pretty lonely!
Re:Trust tyrogers: Whew! I was sweating that for a minute.........good to know we are not an internet dating couple! LOL
SMILE GIRL! I love ya!!! :-* :-*
BBH - Ty
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