Dance like no one is watching browngreen: When I met my H, I didn't want to trust completely.
Then two things happened.
I heard the phrase "It's not bravery if you're not scared."
The other thing that happened was I realized that to experience a full and robust love of my dreams, I'd have to take a risk. Anything we gain in life comes from taking risks, I think. Often, the bigger the risk, the greater the reward.
So, we didn't work out?
I am BY FAR coming out ahead, yes, I have my bruises (ifguratively speaking, of course!), but they are small really because I know one day I won't even remember them really. I'm exponentially better off now than I was.
And I'm very grateful.
BG
Re:Trust Bubba: To trust or not to trust, that is thy question. I usually base my trust of a person based upon my gut instincts and upon their actions. In regards to trusting someone with my heart. Well my heart was ripped about last year. It was utterly destroyed. Yet, I survived. The thing is the 11.5 years I spent with my stbx was worth the pain. In short, I have no problem putting my heart on the line again, because even if it ends in pain, chances are the road before it ends is going to be one hell of a good ride. It is like playing poker, you don't leave the table because of one bad hand. You just pick up the cards, and play again.
One other thing. If you do not let yourself trust, then how can you ever have a good relationship? I know I trust the wonderful woman whom I am now with. Sure there is no guareentees what the future holds, but like I said, the road getting to the end has been great thus far.
Cheers,
Bubba
Re:Trust Lilsara: I myself was wondering if I will be able to trust and love someone again as if I've never been hurt. I think I will to an extent, I just try to remind myself that it isn't fair to the new people that enter into your life to suffer for the wrong that the people in your past have done. In fact if my ex hadn't gotten past his ex we wouldn't have dated. I wouldn't want anyone not to trust me based on what some person I don't know did to them. I know I am a good person and I agree with Bubba trust yourself, trust your gut and give that person their merit through their own actions.
