Re:How could this of happened - CONFUSED PETE: I AM IN THIS SAME POSITION, THE WOMAN I HAVE LOVED EXCLUSIVELY FOR 12 YEARS JUST DECIDED SHE WANTS TO BE FREE. I HATE EVERY MOMENT I AM NOT WITH HER, SHE HAS NEVER BEEN THE WAY SHE IS BEING WITH ME, I FEEL SO USED , BETRAYED AND ABANDONED. I DONT FEEL LIKE I WILL BE ABLE TO LOVE AGAIN.
Re:How could this of happened - buyrbware: Knight again all i can say is start living life for you! Stop blaming yourself, you cant control her or her love.
I once told my wife "I wouldnt treat a dog the way you are treating me" I asked her if you really loved me how could you stand to see me in or put me through this pain. You dont do that to people you love.
She had no response, she claimed her life was terriable and that she had to do something for her. She had been taking care of me and the kids that she felt she lost her identity, said it wasnt me it was her! So I asked her you are upset because youve had to be a wife and a mother. I gave you the world anything you wanted. I wasnt posessive she did what ever she wanted because i trusted her. I was always affectionate and never went out with the guys. she was my best friend and i was hers. So I asked her is this what has caused you to look for another man.
Knight she got bored, got complacent...felt like she was getting older and had nothing but some kids and a husband to show for it! BULLSHIT!!!
She flirted at work with some f*cking guy you was wanting to get into her pants, she screwed up and went to far!
This happens and there is nothing that you the victim can do about it! I hate to say Move on cause I hated to hear it myself! Knight your soulmate would never hurt you so obviously she was a step while looking for your soul partner!
Tom
Re:How could this of happened - BlindOracle: I'm with Amy.
I used to be the guy in the corner, never socializing. I'm tall, attractive...but as soon as the conversation got going, I was sure to end it very soon. I'm a bad bad conversationalist...better now, I'd say.
In hindsight, I could have benefitted from some counselling. Don't think of it as having something wrong with you, that's likely not the case. In my situation, I was socialized to be alone in my family because I was so much younger than my older brothers...I just developed like that because I didn't have anyone to talk to growing up.
Seriously, I don't know what I can say to make you look into it but you won't regret doing so.
