Re:After separation, wife sleeps with someone else praxedis: You're joking, right? Women! Merciless and sympathetic at the same time.
How about I ask my jilted wife whether I should give my lover a detailed explanation of why I want out?
My (ex)lover knows I love my wife and that I was considering a reconcilation with her so the two-sentence e-mail wasn't a huge surprise for her. I'm sure she would really appreciate your sympathy though.
Seriously, I have a question: Why is it that some women are constantly seeking validation from other women sometimes to their own peril? *Think for yourselves!*
A little common sense and gut instinct go a long way.
Re:After separation, wife sleeps with someone else Bob-Bob: Quite an interesting thing is happening here...
First of all... I have to agree with Brian75034, the marriage is not over until you both are willing to walk away...
Of course the trust has been broken... the intimacy has taken a major blow and things just don't feel right... but as somone pointed out on here once a while ago in another thread... feelings do change... they are ever changing... I think we have all jumped the gun before in our lives... and maybe you feel that is what you did... but no matter what has happened...
You and your wife may still have the oppurtunity to make your relationship better than it ever was before....
Hey I was cheated on... but I am not here to judge you... we are all here for the same reasons man... I hope you find that place in your marriage that brought you together in the first place ... and a reason to keep it together for the long haul.
good luck!!!
Bob
Re:After separation, wife sleeps with someone else inebr: I was thinking, I don't think that the OW really deserves or needs more than 2 lines of explanation. I don't know ....being involved with a married man, well, that's some sticky business one is getting themselves in and one has to be aware that in a sticky situation things like this can happen.
That's just me, though.
Re:After separation, wife sleeps with someone else JASPER: What worries me is not whether or not you two can make the marriage work what bothers me is comments like:
The loss of the lover is a big deal for me
I know this, letting go of the OW is much easier than letting go of my wife, but I can't deny that it hurts.
If I had to see her, I think the marriage would definitely be over.
IMO you really have some unresolved issues you need to work on before you two can move foward from this.
Re:After separation, wife sleeps with someone else praxedis: You may be right about those unresolved issues jasper. The pain kinda peaked on me again while I was at the YMCA and then my lover sent me this:
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Praxedis:
I understand.
I love you with all of my heart and soul and I always will, for the rest of my life.
I cannot allow myself to let you be so frightened on your own.
Let me know if things change. OK?
I will think of you every day until I die.
And if one day in the future you are feeling low and sad, please remember that I love you and I would have been with you if fate had allowed it. You are, and always will be, the first choice of my heart.
Today I discovered that I need someone here for me too. I am not the completely self-sufficient strong woman I thought. A flat tire nearly undid me, and as stupid as that is, it's what it is.
Maybe one day we will be reunited, maybe not.
You've given me emotional currency when I had none, someone to talk to when I felt so alone, someone to spark with when my fires were raging. You are someone whose passions run as deep and as far as my own.
Thank you for showing me I am not alone. And now as I promised so many months ago, I let you go, quietly, knowing that we share an uncommon kind of love. The world will never be the same for me, knowing that someone like you is in it. The world is better, brighter. I hope you one day realize how amazing you are. A beautiful man, inside and out.
I wish I could give you something as a memento. So, for you, I am going to pursue this organization for migrant workers in Michigan. I will give them publicity, volunteer, whatever. My gift to you: to help a part of a community you are so passionate about. It's a dedication of love.
Goodbye. I love you.
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