Why cant he just freakin grow up??? PiscesGoddess: I am married to a 46 year old man that doesnt want to give up being "all about himself' (his words) He says he's going through a mid life crisis ..he says being a new parent for the first time is hard.. he has to give up his free time and his this and his that. WELL FRIGGIN BOO HOO!! I have stood by him ..understanding..listening..not pushing..and he shuts down anyway. We have a baby that has been sick for all 2 months of his life and extremely needy and I do all the work. And most of the time I keep my mouth shut and end up like a volcano inside. I ask him to be more help.. He says he's going through something..says he tends to shut down.. blah de freakin blah.. Time to grow up dummy we have a kid. I told him I would take the kids away for the weekend ..give him time alone if thats what he wanted.he says that would only make it worse ??? I just dont know what to do here.. Oh did I mention he has a problem with alcohol?? He cant go out with his buddies and party anymore so he goes into the garage til wee hours of the morning and then cant get his arse up to help out. I have forgiven this man for so many things in the course of our relationship..over and over being the nice gal.. Well Im starting to get pushed and Im not sure how much more I am willing to give. He says he is going to change.. Geez where have I heard that before??? :( I dont know.. How many chances to you give a person to step up to the plate and be man before you just shake your head and throw down the bat??? I love him and good GOD I would hate to get divorced AGAIN..yikes.. Im trying to be in it for the long haul here but not at the expense of losing yet another part of myself. Blah .>Im sorry.. I am so overwrought and overtired and feel so alone I could be on a desert island. Im sure this is another bump in the road of me and him but ouch these bruises are killin me.... :'(
Pisces Goddess
Re:Why cant he just freakin grow up??? HELPMECOPE: I am 33 he is 42 we have a 3yr old,I have 3 step chidren and trust me the ex not a fun situation to deal with. In 6yrs I have delt with, his drugs alcohal,gambling infidelity. Now he is tired and doesn't have the time to help. Grow up be responsible .he says he loves me more than anything but don't actions speak louder than words. When do you say enough already. The sad thing if anyone that knows him on the outside of our family heard any of this they wouldn't believe it he has everyone fooled. Tall attractive.always at work appears to be responsible manager position, I guess then nothing is left for me.
So the forgiving many many times I can really understand, I to want to believe in another bump in the road. I just found out that the women he cheated on me with 1 1/2 yrs ago he has still been talking too. He says she is a friend that she wanted advice on her new relationship ? Hello big SUCKER sticker on my forhead. He just moved back in In sept I was only able to tell him I loved him again This past Sunday and Found out Monday he is still talking too her so again when is enough enough? We are doing on are own anyways. Think of how much more money we would have if we didn't have that beer bill. Good luck to you I just needed to vent I want to scream but it doesn't help.
Re:Why cant he just freakin grow up??? EZ: Howdy pardner ;D
Hey tell that old fart that if he don’t straighten up and act right there is a young man (44) coming up there to kick his teeth in. ;)
Seriously, as always I have no advice just hugs.
“ Days go by and still I think of you
Days when I couldn't live my life without you
Days go by and still I think of you
Days when I couldn't live my life without you
Without you
Without you”
Peace and Love always
ez
Re:Why cant he just freakin grow up??? incoherentlonghorn: BIG HUGS!
Our thoughts are with you and I hope your situation improves!!!!!!!
