Re:Ready to break something :( LostTeacher: that's the one thing that i hated doing... trying to deal with this at work. i don't know about you, but trying to fit in calls and e-mails was not what i enjoyed doing. especially when every time i would get a message from my lawyer or from "him", it would just make me depressed. but it was something i just would have to do to be able to deal with things.
i personally was thinking about one of those "mental health days" myself, but i just don't think i will have time for it this week. my student teachers are on their last week, and i have to start planning for when they are not going to be here anymore.
Ready to break something :( teacherwriterguy: I am not having a good day today. :(
Ok - so the closing on my house sale is 5/4. The purchase of my condo is 5/6.
I need the money from the house sale to fund the purchase of the condo.
Neither my stbx nor I are arguing in the slightest about how the funds are to be divided - we're both in complete agreement. No problems there.
The problem comes with the lawers - real estate and divorce. >:(
When I originally retained the real estate lawyer, I was very careful to mail contact information for both lawyers to each other so that they knew how to contact each other. I explained very clearly how I wanted everything to work - the closing dates, the money disbursment, etc. They both assured me that it was "fine" and would go as planned.
So today - 4/25 - I call just to double check. The divorce attorney says, no.. the settlement agreement won't be done by the time the house sells, so I'd better call the real estate attorney to see how she's handling the checks.
The real estate attorney says that without written instruction from the lawyer, signed by stbx, she can only cut one check for the house in both of our names.
The problem with that is that, if the check is in both of our names, I can't cash it without stbx's signature. And I NEED my half of that check to purchase the condo - 2 days later. Given that the stbx is out of state, the likelihood of getting the check to her, getting it signed and returned, and back to me in time for the purchase of the condo is more nervewracking than I want to deal with.
So I called both lawyers back and bitched them out left and right and explained how they were not going to f-up the purchase of my house and they better get their asses straight and figure out how to make this happen.
The current plan is to have the divorce attorney write a "letter of direction" that explains how the check is to be cut, e-mail that letter to stbx, have stbx sign it TONIGHT, and next-day mail it back TOMORROW so that it is in the hands of the real estate attorney in time to set up the cutting of the check for the house proceeds.
Of course this depends on:
a) that my stbx has a printer to print the e-mail, which I'm not sure she does.
b) that my stbx will, in fact, print the e-mail, sign it, and send it tomorrow next-day messenger.
Meanwhile, I am just livid here - lawyers are supposed to solve these problems FOR YOU - I am not supposed to have to be the one figuring out these stinkin' details. I have enough on my hands trying to get the house ready to move, cleaned up, and packed.
I am literally at the point where I want to scream obscenities at both of them - and believe you me, I am not an aggressive person. :P
twg
Re:Ready to break something :( LostTeacher: ok........so not a good situation...............
i know your pain with lawyers. with stbxh, he works for a law firm, so all of his legal fees are free, while i pay in excess of $200/hr for mine. plus, i feel like i spend a great deal of time chasing my lawyer around to get things done a little quicker, and nothing seems to go the way i want it.
is there anyway that you could take a "mental health day" from work? i know i do that sometimes when things just get overwhelming. i call in sick, but spend the time getting things done that i wouldn't normally be able to do. i know it's hard to prep for a sick day when you are a teacher, but this is some stressful stuff you are dealing with, and even if you get it all done in the small time frame that you have, you are going to be feeling a huge amount of pressure.
Re:Ready to break something :( teacherwriterguy: Thank you, LT.
Yeah - I am definitely considering a possible sick day tomorrow to try to handle some of these details and be in contact with stbx and attorneys.
Trying to do this inbetween class periods is driving me nuts today.
twg
Re:Ready to break something :( Jennicole: yuck!!! sorry bout that.. when i sold my house, we didnt receive the check for almost a week and a half... i was ticked because we basically had to front a whole lotta money to get in the new place.. you know the money that you 'have' but is already 'spent'. good luck to ya!!
