is this thing on? klund: I know this board is for the cheated, not the cheat. I have cheated once on my now ex fiance. I am bugging the F#&% out! I love her so much, and I still cant answer why I did what I did. I am having a lot of bad feelings, feelings of remorse, emptiness. I am ashamed of myself, and embarassed. I know she still loves me, and I love her more now than ever! If God can forgive us of our sins, do you think she can forgive me of mine? I think of her 24-7, the dreams I have of her are so intense. Is there hope for us? :'(
Re:is this thing on? elisioleftalone: First, welcome. Yes there is hope for you. I would recommend the book "Love life for every married couple" for you and your fiance, as well as immediate counseling. Neither are a guarantee, but that book as well as a good counselor will have seen success. You're right, God can forgive you, so can she. Also, know this is going to take a long time no matter what.
Re:is this thing on? klund: All I have is time, and I told her that. We were going to a therapist for awhile together, but since this all happened she stopped going, and I have been going twice a week. Thank you for the suggestions. I hurt so bad right now. I went to my priest 3 days after this all came out, I cried to him, and confessed my sins. I just want her to come back to me!
Re:is this thing on? elisioleftalone: Klund, If I were you, I would consider reading 1 other book that will be even more vitally important to you. It is called "False Intimacy". Your local library should have it. This book is about Sexual Temptation and addiction. The reason I suggest this is that you say you don't know why you did it. My wife left because I was looking at internet porn and until I read this book, I didn't understand why I was drawn to it and couldn't get away.
Most of all, trust God can work through this to draw you closer to Him. It can be an amazing time of growth and strengthening, although all you feel is the breaking right now.
Re:is this thing on? teacherwriterguy: The sad truth is - if you cheated, you jeopardized your relationship. You may not get it back.
The best you can do is be absolutely open, absolutely trustworth from now on with your partner. You can't make her forgive you - live a life that you can be proud of, one where you can look yourself in the mirror again, and leave the decision to her.
Patience, humility, and a willingness to let go of the control of the situation. That's the best you can do.
twg
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