IS two sentences humane and appropriate? justmenow: I felt this warranted it's own thread.
Ok, come on, if you have had a relationship with someone, intimate or otherwise, do you *really* feel that breaking up with them via *email* and ending it in just a couple of sentences is appropriate? What's up with that? Do the other person's feelings not play into this at all.
I feel that is the cowardly way out and frankly disgusting to discount another human being's feelings like that. Of course that 's just my opinion, but then it wasn't much of a relationship was it? I'd be interested to find out others' opinions on this. I mean, I'm not expecting a 90 page manifesto, but a bit of an explanation would be acceptable.
Thoughts?
Re:IS two sentences humane and appropriate? TiredandScared: Personaly I have a hard time using email in this way at all have the b@lls to tell them in your own words with your own voice. Step up to the plate and follow through with what you have started. Thats just my opinion, and you entered a relationship of some form with this person and they deserve something better than two lines whouldn't you rather have it that way?
Re:IS two sentences humane and appropriate? heelblue: I have always gone by the old saying "do unto others as you would have done to you"...and I know I would not like to be on the receiving end of a 2 sentence email breaking things off.
Re:IS two sentences humane and appropriate? JASPER: I have to agree with everyone else I think if you really had some sort of relationship with this person it definatly deserves more of an explanation.
Re:IS two sentences humane and appropriate? Jernigan: You know, two sentences would be entirely inappropriate and insufficient, I feel, if this were the demise of a marriage or a years-long relationship. In other words, a break-up explanation should seem commensurate not only with the amount of time you spent with one another, but how much emotion was invested in the relationship. Sometimes, however, there's no explanation. That being said, after dating for several weeks, or even a couple of months, I definitely wouldn't expect a manifesto, as you say. In fact, being in the predicaments I've been in, sometimes I've been surprised to receive anything at all.
I know this is probably the last thing you want to hear, but getting dumped s*cks, plain and simple. Is it really going to make it better to have a long-winded explanation he might not even have? I don't know. But the impression I've received is that this relationship lasted only several weeks to a couple of months; perhaps he didn't feel a manifesto was warranted. Perhaps he didn't have the intensity of emotion invested you did. But I think that---depending on what he said---two sentences might be enough. Believe me, it would sting me too---but it would more sting me because my self-esteem is fragile right now; it wouldn't be about THAT person, necessarily---my reaction would be more about me and the aftereffects of my failed marriage, if you know what I mean.
Again, I'm sorry to pipe in with something like this, but I do feel that, from someone's perspective who's dumped and been dumped, that a short explanation among two daters who have been together a short period of time is enough.
I'm sorry this happened to you.
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