Re:IS two sentences humane and appropriate? justmenow: Oh it didn't happen to me - It was in a different thread. I appreciate your candor. Can't say as if I agree, but yes, under the circumstances of simply going out on a couple of dates I would think it was appropriate ... maybe. I still prefer the in-person thing. E-mail is just SO impersonal - kind of like "I don't want to see you anymore but I'm not gutsy enough to face you and say something." Even over the phone would be acceptable.
However, if there was sex and intimacy involved, that's a whole other monster. I know, and pardon me for generalizing here, that to some people sex is just sex, but if it were me - that's definitely not the case. I don't just give it up for the sake of having sex - there is definitely emotion involved. My point is that if there are emotions involved, I would *definitely* not appreciate a two sentence email. I can't imagine that anyone would be ok with that, but hey, if there are those of you out there that are, please don't date me, ok? That should be a pre-qualification question in my book.
I wouldn't expect a long-winded explanation, but a phonecall or a visit in person - hey this just isn't working out, we're not compatible, I've decided to go another direction in my life, etc. At least this gives me closure. The Hit and Run approach doesn't sit well with me.
Re:IS two sentences humane and appropriate? Jernigan: What if they were two really great sentences? As in, Shakespearean-quality sentences? Or compound, heart-felt, poetic sentences? Seriously? How much would be enough?
All the heart-felt missives in the world just ain't going to save you from heartbreak, simple as that. And just having discovered the genesis of this debate, I have to say, once again, that it depends on the predicament and individuals involved; that gentleman knows far better than we do what is appropriate in his circumstance. We are neither in the position to judge how appropriate his actions were, nor whether his two sentences sufficed. At least in my opinion.
Look, I'd hate to be the recipient of a breakup letter of any sort---whether two sentences or two hundred pages. Sometimes the other person has no other explanation than to say "I don't love you, and I'm sorry. Goodbye."
This is coming from a person who still, to this day, is waiting for an explanation from his wife. I doubt it will ever come, and I will have to accept that. Just as some of us have to accept a two-sentence goodbye.
Re:IS two sentences humane and appropriate? DaisyGarden: This was a woman involved with a married man. I'm not all that concerned with how she was 'let down'. ::) Also, I'm not sure this post is very appropriate. Why make a separate thread debating how a peticular poster dealt with his situation? I'm sorry, but I wouldn' want my story/posts/ picked apart. ^Shrug^
Re:IS two sentences humane and appropriate? finney5: I don't know. I was kind of interested since I'd been seeing a guy for a couple of weeks and then he stood me up without a phone call and when I call him he says he forgot and that's the last time I heard from him. At least that person (regardless of the facts surrounding the situation) received an email. I've got nothing! So should I call him on Sunday (If I haven't heard from him) and ask in a straightforward-yet non-b1tchy manner what's going on? are you interested in me? okay fine I'll leave you alone now.
Re:IS two sentences humane and appropriate? atd74: finney,
IMO this guy who had the audacity to stand you up and then say he "forgot" isn't even worth your time. Why bother? You may never get a straight answer from him. Sometimes it isn't worth finding out or having the last word.
I was starting a relationship with this guy who was stringing me along and I knew it so I stopped making the effort and lo and behold he tried getting in touch with me twice after that. I didn't even bother to call him back (as he had done to me several times) or try to find out what he really wanted out of a relationship with me. He wasn't worth my time. After everything I've gone through with my ex and the divorce I won't let anyone have one over on me again... What comes around goes around full circle honey.
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