Re:Nightmare Confirmed barelybreathing: I swear I am living alone for the rest of my life.
Deception, lies, double lives.....WTF?
Remember, this is about his issues and not yours.
Please remember that. No matter how much he tries to make this about you and your shortcomings.
I am so very sorry. I wish I could give you a big hug so you can just cry and let it all out.
Take a deep breath and just take care of yourself.
BB
Re:Nightmare Confirmed NotADoormat: Oh my God, I am so sorry for you! I know exactly what that feels like. The sheer quantity and intensity of emotions that you feel - it's indescribable. Just keep this in mind - my absolute best advice for you. Don't do anything rash. Believe me, the number of things that ran through my head ranged from running him & her over with my car to setting all of his possesions out in the rain to sending a mass email to all of our friends and his family with attachments of the sick emails he sent to HER. FYI - I didn't do any of those things.
Just don't do ANYTHING right now until you come to terms with this enough to be rational. Get yourself to a counselor and rant and rave for a while. You are entitled to these emotions, just be careful with them. That's why they have a "temporary insanity" plea in court - don't do anything that will jeopardize the rest of your life.
I will pray for you that your Dr. doesn't find any diseases. That should be your biggest concern right now is your well being. When are you going to confront him? It might be a good idea to have an impartial third party present (I confronted my X in front of our marriage counselor).
Oh man, I wish I could just pull you about a year into the future - things will be better for you I promise. Big hugs. IM me if you need to vent/scream/whatever. :'(
Re:Nightmare Confirmed niceguy: I'm sorry...wow...Just wanted to say though you are doing amazingly well. Shows real strength for you to be handling things this way. I don't know how long I could keep my emotions in check. You're doing great keep it up.
[quote"> Oh man, I wish I could just pull you about a year into the future - things will be better for you I promise[/quote">
I couldn't have said it better. I wish that for everyone here. Just fast forward to a better place, but somehow still get keep all the insight we are gaining and the great friends we are all finding.
Re:Nightmare Confirmed Brian75034: Hope,
I understand. I found out my wife was cheating on me via emails.
One word of advice: print off all those messages. You might need it. Whether its to show your spouse when he straight out denies everything to you or for court if things turn ugly.
I am sooo sorry you had to go through this- its one of the worse things in the world.
BUT, *I* am living proof you can get through this. You CAN come out a better person from it all. Hang in there!
Oh, and you are right about the intuition- walk likes a duck, talks like a duck.....
B
