How much worse can this get? ostia: OK, I've just been informed that my husband (who just moved in with his new girlfriend) has posted on his weblog (on LiveJournal, if anyone has heard of it) that he is starting a whole new life with "the woman of his dreams." So much for trying to work things out with me.
In my earlier posts, I mentioned that he was still saying that he might want to reconcile as recently as 2 weeks ago. What a total a**hole. The worst thing is that many of our mutual friends read his blog, so this really amounts to a public humiliation.
I'm trying to decide whether or not to post a comment on his blog. All summer, he's been presenting this break-up on the blog as mutually agreed upon and amiable...just so he doesn't have to look bad....and I've refrained from setting the record sraight because 1) it wouldn't do any good, and 2) I have too much class to make a public spectacle of myself, and 3) I was attempting to maintain cordial relations between us. Now, i don't know.
He still hasn't answered my last e-mail from a week and a half ago. Thishas gone downhill so unbelievably fast. How much more horribly cruel can he be?
Re:How much worse can this get? Kathy: I feel so bad for you. It is better to know than not. It is hard on you I can tell, but it is better to have found out than to keep hanging on for him. I am truely sorry for the way you found out though, he could have acted like a man about it.
Just remember this time in pain is only temporary, and down the road are better times and people! I truely believe that. Good Luck!!
Re:How much worse can this get? JASPER: I'm sorry for your pain Ostia.but now you see it's time to let thet jerk go. There is no need for you to put your life on hold any longer waiting on this child!
He has clearly made a choice to move on with his life so stop listening to these empthy promises he continues to make to you.
I know the pain is unbearable at times but you must get through it in order to move on to the happiness.
Re:How much worse can this get? ataloss: Ostia,
I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with this. It makes it even worse that he couldn't tell you about his decision face to face like a considerate human being. Remember that you're a strong woman and you WILL figure out some way to deal with this.
I don't think that posting on his blog is a good idea. You have a tremendous amount of class. And one day, you'll be able to look back on this rotten time in your life and know that you acted with a decent amount of decorum--no regrets. I think you're right to take the 'high road' on this one.
Keep your head up. It's hard--believe me, I know--but one day this will all be just a bad experience that you've learned and grown from.
Re:How much worse can this get? ostia: Thanks for the kind words, everybody.
As painful as it is to see your husband refer to another woman as "the woman of his dreams" and "my beloved muse" (gag) on the web, it has at least finally given me the closure I need. The fact that things had to go this far before I could let go is a shame, but at least now I know what I'm dealing with.
Oddly, I'm in a better mood than I have been in while. Finally knowing what's what is a relief. I may not feel this way tomorrow...my moods lately have given new meaning to the term "emotional rollercaster," but for now at least I'm happy.
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