Re:How much worse can this get? amess: OMG, my stbx has been doing the same thing. Not only has he posted himself all over the internet dating services as divorced ( we have been separated 2 months, and going through a messy divorce), but he told all his family and friends and coworkers that this was mutually agreed upon and amicable. Couldn't be further than the truth, especially after all the lies I found out he had told me, upon us separating, from various sources, including ex girlfriends. So now, they all think I'm a vengeful, hateful stbx, who is bent on destroying him, when he is so fair and wonderful. We both made mistakes, and we were in couples therapy, but he was lying to me and the therapist about his true intentions------ he never wanted to work on our issues, and how each of us could turn our mistakes around. For him, it is all my fault, and he is the blameless one. I take responsiblity for my failings in communication, and how my own problems contributed, but he will not. It sounds like your stbx and mine are both classic narcissists, who cannot see their failings, or they will crumble. I am suffering from rejection and a loss in self-esteem, but it helps to know that my stbx never had any self-esteem to begin with. Hang in there, you are better off than he, because you can deal with reality and know the truth.
