MOVED TODAY JASPER: Well today I moved in with my mom this was a really big step for me because I had been staying at our old place basically so we could have a place to hang out and sleep.
Funny thing is I feel great about the move I finally feel as if I've taking a step in the right direction. I thought I was going to be sad moving from over there but I dont even though I know I wont be able to lay with him at night or hang out with him in the morning before I go to work.
I'm actually looking foward to sleeping alone.How strange just last week I was ready to move in with him and this week I don't want to anymore.
I don't know if I'm being fical or just undecisive.All I know is I thought I wanted to make this work but I'm not to sure anymore maybe it was just a phase of missing my old life that made me want to jump back into the marriage.Maybe if I would have waited it would have passed.
Has anyone else had these back and forth feelings one minute you want to make it work the next minute your thinking is it really worth it?
Re:MOVED TODAY Safetykc: Every day Jasper. But you have to keep sticking to the big things. In my case I have filed and have a court date. So all the emotional back and forth is just that. The big things are still going forward. I think many of us would want to make it work. But in all honesty, can it? Most cases probably not. You hang in there and I am happy you feel great about this next step! :D Take care....
Re:MOVED TODAY barelybreathing: Yes, yes and triple yes. All so topsy turvy.
Change is scary Jasper but it can be good. View this as a big positive move in a forward direction.
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Re:MOVED TODAY JASPER: Now listen to this he calls before he gets off of work I haven't any cash so he say he'll bring me over a few dollars. I'm sitting in my moms living room and I hear the dogs barking so I figure it's him and go to the door.When I open the door I see him putting the money in the mailbox? Why wouldn't he ring the bell?
I shrug that off he hands me the money kisses me goodnight and tells me to call him in the morning?
I say what are you about to do he says go over his sisters and watch tv I say well call me I'll be up for awhile.Then he asks me for a blanket because his sister doesn't have any extra so I go get him one we stand ther talking about nothing for about 10 minutes then we hug I mean hugged like we will never hug again and he says again call me in the morning.
Now did it sound like he was trying to avoid seeing me by putting the money in the mailbox?
Why would he not want to talk to me on the phone tonight and we have been spending the night together for about three weeks now? Does it sound like maybe it's because I gave up the house and he can't spend the night with me any longer?
Or is it because he really has no comfortable place to sleep now unless he turns to some other womans bed.
Re:MOVED TODAY JimB: Just stop yourself. Stop trying to read his mind.
Isn't it funny how communication fails between two people? If you don't want to make yourself nuts by wondering what's going on in his head, you have two choices. You can either ask him point blank what he is thinking and where he plans on sleeping, or you can decide it doesn't matter that much and let it go.
Up to you.
