The dreaded birthday.... barelybreathing: Okay....for those of you that know my story, I spent my birthday last year in total dispair. The day before my 34th birthday, I found out about his affair compliments of his birthday gift to me. (A used/new cell phone with her outgoing number on it.)
I was not around family or friends. I had this little two year old to look after and I was completely shattered.
Needless to say, not a good birthday.
Well my birthday is on Monday, so this year, I am trying to figure out what I can do to get through the day without connecting my birthday to his affair.
I definately want to keep it low key and spend it with my daughter. I want it to be a positive day and not one of sadness.
Any suggestions? Fresca? What did you do on your birthday the following year? Seeing as you experienced the same thing I did.
This will be harder than the anniversary or anything else........
BB
Re:The dreaded birthday.... Brian75034: BB,
Do anything that makes you feel alive. God gave us so many things in which to enjoy and which makes us feel good inside and what makes us come alive.
So, what is it that gives you that feeling? Your daughter? Spend the day with her. Your photography? Take a class or take pictures? Movies? Go see a movie either by yourself, or with your daughter or family or a friend.
Despite the nasty divorce, I know there are MANY things that still bring you joy- go do that joyfull thing!
:)
B
Re:The dreaded birthday.... barelybreathing: Well, today is the day and I have cried from the moment I woke up. Why? Who knows. But the least slightest thing is triggering my tear ducts.
I thought about calling in sick today but thought that working would be a good distraction. On the way to work my daughter sang happy birthday to me and I just quietly sobbed inside and wiped a tear from eye. She said she would draw me a picture at school and give it to me as a present. What an angel.
The business next door brought in a cake for me and I cried some more. Then he called me.
Not to wish me Happy Birthday at all, but to lecture me on how today is about me and I need to make it a good day.
Yeah, okay. Thanks for the pep talk. Got it.
Was invited to lunch to celebrate this one and only occasion, my 35th birthday, and I know I am going to fight back my tears....
I think I should have stayed home today.
God, please hold me up and give me strength. I am offering it all up to you.
BB
Re:The dreaded birthday.... JimB: [quote">
My faith. My daughter. My family.
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Happy birthday, BB. It's a celebration of all these wonderful things, as well as the sometimes rocky journey you've taken to earn them.
You can resume with the ongoing funeral for happy days gone by tomorrow. ;)
Re:The dreaded birthday.... inebr: Happy Birthday, BB!!!!!
I really hope you find some enjoyment in today.
Anyhow, happy bday, eat mucho cake!
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