Re:Kids and dating... sammi81183: I agree That he needs to accept both of you. Since he can't, moooove on. There is someone out there that won't treat you like that. Besides, you don't want someone making you choose between them and your children. I have a two year old also. It sounds like he hasn't grown up past the toddler stage and doesn't know how to share. haha! ;D
Re:Kids and dating... Darkwood: I have some reservations against dating women with children, partly since I have none of my own. However, I would still consider it.
One thing I know for sure though -- you can NEVER come between a parent and their child, so don't even try unless you are looking for trouble. The child will always come first, and you have to be okay with that.
Re:Kids and dating... cbbear27: Yes.. you can never come between that "bond". I agree.... however... the "parent" should still be able to make time for "you". If they cannot then what is the point???
Re:Kids and dating... PiscesGoddess: Once again cbear ..I agree.. It is pretty dang impossible to come between that bond..and I think, as a parent..if I am going to date of course I will make time for that person. But that person has to understand..that first and foremost I am a mother..always will be. But I am a woman too, and I want my children to learn what a happy healthy relationship is all about. I have had men try to use me in a tug of war with my children..and in those cases..the guy is the one gonna lose...and ..you know what to bad! because I am a great woman..that happens to be a mom. And God knows I've had bad relationships..and in the end ..who is left? Me and my kids... And if somebody wants to stick around and be a part of me..and accept that part of me..then he has to be a pretty stand up kind of guy. I admire the guys on here that took on wives or girlfriends that had kids...because that shows a whole heck of alot about their character as a human and a man. (those go together right ;D) so if a guy or even woman is looking for someone to have "all to themselves" then finding someone without kids would probably be the best bet. Just my 2 cents..as a parent. ::)
Re:Kids and dating... Safetykc: I can understand your reservations DW about dating a woman with children. As a guy who dated, lived with, and then married a woman with 2 kids I have a personal perspective on the topic.
The seperation and pending divorce really made it hard because I fell in love with the kids as much as with the woman. So i am losing a LOT....but, I knew the risks. I chose to marry her and take the kids in to help raise as a family. I had to accept when I put on that ring and made that promise to join our lives together that I was getting a whole package, anything less would have been really crappy to do to those kids and my STBX.
Even through the pain of losing not only my wife and the kids...I wouldn't trade my time in their lives for anything in the world..
They were great kids...If you have any reservations about being able to accept a woman with kids and that at SOME point in the relationship they will be involved...in fact, the more serious a relationship becomes the more the kids will probably be involved...then stay away...it's not fair to the woman or the kids...or yourself...This whole divorce thing has taught me that their are no guarantees in life so only get involved with someone with kids with EYES WIDE OPEN...
Ramble ramble...sorry all..I may not be putting this very well...this touched a nerve...still miss the kids...at this point more than the EX...LoL
They never did me wrong as she did....sigh..
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