Re:Kids and dating... admin: "The great thing about Freedom of Speech is that it helps identify the a-holes so much faster". OK, you identified what the guy is like, now pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again with someone else. You know what they say about falling off a horse...
Ride 'em Cowgirl ;)
Re:Kids and dating... SunnyFlower: Haha, great quote, Michael, thanks for the laugh!!
I agree with what all of you guys said, and thanks for your replies. It's hard because being single for almost a year now, I found someone who is great in every way except this "issue" and I really want it to work even if my gut tells me it's not the right thing to do!
I am sure there are plenty of guys out there that would understand my son is of the most importance...so the search continues! ;)
GIDDY UP!!
Re:Kids and dating... justmenow: Yeah, it also makes me wonder what kind of stepdad this guy would be if you happened to "work around it". It could possibly put your child at risk and I know you wouldn't ever want to do that.
Re:Kids and dating... Safetykc: I agree with TNM,
Don't settle. My STBX had 2 kids from a previous marriage when I met her, and the kids never were and still weren't/aren't the issues between us. I fell in love with her and the kids as a package and never felt put on the back burner. Joy and excitement is where you find it. I loved spending time with both my lady and the kids. They were great! You will find someone who wants the whole package. You deserve it. That's what you are when you have kids, a package. You and your child deserve that. So if this guy has issues with it already he might not be worth your time. We are out there! Keep the faith...
Re:Kids and dating... cbbear27: Get rid of the guy. If he cannot accept your child then he is not worth it. I have to comment on this one. I am dating a man that has 2 children. I have none.
It was hard at first because I had no clue what it was like to be a parent. (still dont but I am learning). I went thru a lot of feelings with this situation. But I did learn that he can share his attention with me and his kids. We have fun together. There is nothing wrong with dating someone that has a "checkered" past but only if you can accept it. Dont waste your time on the men that dont want to be with your child. IT is not worth having your child possibly getting close to him only to have him/her feelings hurt because he leaves. Make sense? Sorry if I am rambling.
Good luck to you. I am sure you will find someone that will love your child as much as you do. ;)
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