It seems like it is getting worse!! Cyn: My s2bx left me about 4 months ago, and I thought I was finally able to handle things again. I had a new house, new job and friends I thought I was finally getting my life together. Then I find out he has another women, and it is like bam alll over again, I can't eat I can't sleep and I have no hope for the future and no want to wake up every morning let alone get out of bed. I feel so lost all over again, and I am starting to question why I have to go though this hell all of the time. Help me.....
Re:It seems like it is getting worse!! PiscesGoddess: Oh honey..I'm so sorry your feeling bad.. but what your going through is one of the stages of grief on the crazy rollercoaster of divorce. I remember going through that when I found out about my ex dating again..and I was the one that left Him! ::)
Do you have a counselor? Someone to talk to? I know the feeling of not wanting to get out of bed..but once you do..it starts to get better..it really does..You have to keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep on keepin on..and do whatever you can to take care of yourself in the meantime. I think we have all been in your shoes at one time or another.. and I really can tell you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Remember you are ALWAYS stronger than you think you are.. good luck.. PM me anytime if you need to talk..
HUGS
Pisces
Re:It seems like it is getting worse!! NotADoormat: I think that low comes from the painful realization that the X isn't just sitting there pining for us (at least in our own fanasy world). Realistically I know he's not pining for me, but it's a fun little game I play with myself. When my X told me he had a date and he'd been talking to other women online, it hit me pretty hard, but that's exactly what I had been doing too - dating and chatting online. What a double standard I had set! Shame on me!
So, you just pick yourself up off the ground (again) and get on with things. I'm getting pretty good at that and you will too in time.
Re:It seems like it is getting worse!! Cyn: Thanks for the words of support. I just might take you up on your offer Piscesgoddess, I could use all the friends and support I can get right now. Do you guys ever have days when it just doesn't seem like it is going to get better? The really sad part is my problems and how I am dealing with them are starting to affect my son, and that kills me.... :'(
Re:It seems like it is getting worse!! ostia: Hello Cyn,
I knw just how you feel. My H just moved in with his new girlfriend last week, and even though I'd know it was going to happen for a while, the reality of it has been much harder to deal with than I expected. It's making me feel just as sad and angry and devastated as I was in the very beginning.
All we can do is hope it gets easier with time. The one thing I have noticed is that while I've had good days and bad days since the beginning of this mess, I'm having more and more good days as time wears on. That doesn't make the bad days I do still have any easier, though, unfortunately.
So, hang in there...it will get better.
