Re: Any leave"ers" with regrets? atd74: lost,
Welcome to the board!
And you are absolutely 100% correct in what your post stated. That being the leaver is a heavy burden to bear - even in my situation where I knew it was the "right" decision and that I deserved better it still hurt. It crushed me and the first time we were having these issues it destroyed me to think of "abandoning" my ex.
Both sides DO suck... especially when one person is stronger than the other (which is almost always the case). In my situation I was the stronger one... but I'm not wonder woman either.
Re: Any leave"ers" with regrets? dominowin: No regrets. Not one. Not for a millisecond. The only regret I find myself asking is "what took me so long?"
Re: Any leave"ers" with regrets? pisces_goddess: I'm with Marjie on this.. maybe I sound like a B**tch but I DON't have any regrets either.. Wish I would have done this before ANY of us.. him, me , the kids had any more pain... You all have read about my ex and his antics..Can you blame me? Very VERY glad Im outta there.... ::)
Re: Any leave"ers" with regrets? down2basics: Pisces - you're right - you are completely justifed in leaving that prick! (that's the nicest thing I can say about him! sorry!)
As far as asking for forgiveness....FOR WHAT? You obviously felt like you needed something more in your life or you would still be there. Why do you need HIS forgiveness? What possible good would that do? He's not going to give it to you...if for no other reason than it's leverage against you. It's a tool he can hurt you with, and don't think for one heartbeat that he won't use it either - because he will. Be good to yourself - but most of all - forgive yourself! Only you can do that!
God Bless and Keep you!
d2b
Re: Any leave"ers" with regrets? Elskeren:
I guess sunnyflower mentioned something important here and I disagree with At74 about it. If someone feels that they have been unfair to someone who has been very loving and supportive and that they have put that person in a lot of pain for reasons outside her/his control, then seeking foregiveness is a noble thing. Indeed, it might help you Sunny carry on and both of you may start thinking differently of the other, more amicable, and will be stronger carrying on in life.
Elask
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