If I go any more feminine I am going to have a heart attack! AloneandCold: So.... I went and bought a skirt and shirt. This will be the first time I will wear anything resembling a skirt or dress since I was twelve (discounting my wedding dress). I also got some dress shoes, another first for me, and earrings and a necklace. GASP! Talk about shattering barriers. It’s a good thing though. I am a girl and I want to dress up occasionally. Right, it’s a good thing? LoL I think I am still in shock. :)
Bug
Re:If I go any more feminine I am going to have a heart attack! browngreen: Yes! It's a good thing!
Femininity is fun~
I like being girly sometimes.
I actually went to a salon recentlyand got my hair totally done from the washing to the cutting and styling.
I haven't done it yet, but I'm thinking about a pedicure sometime too! I've never had one.
Re:If I go any more feminine I am going to have a heart attack! strow: DEFINATELY get the pedicure...and then get a totally awesome pair of sandals to show off your pretty toes!!
Re:If I go any more feminine I am going to have a heart attack! clambakesX: Go, girl!
Bug, what kind of messages did you get about femininity when you were growing up?
I ask because going girly has been a huge, emotionally-loaded project for me.
In my childhood I got lots of messages that being girly wasn't really permitted for me. OTOH my parents bawled me out for not being feminine enough, but they rarely bought clothes for me - my younger, cuter (by my parents' standards) sisters got the nice things. The things my parents bought for me were kinda butch, really - I had to wear skirts all the time, but had those horrible second-hand LLBean jeans-style corduroy skirts, or awful-colored wrap-arounds, or icky elastic-waist ones I made myself out of kettlecloth from my grandmother's fabric stash. When I did manage to look good, I got warnings about "causing men to stumble" (a Bible quote). I actually got some inappropriate attention from friends of my father. And my mother warned me to "dress around my father as though he were a teenaged boy." Um, what kind of message is that?
Anyway, I had basically zero fashion sense until a few years ago when I started taking sewing lessons. Sewing things for myself gave me permission to dress well, because a well-made outfit wasn't just superficial then - when I'd made it myself, it was a demonstration of good handwork. And that was allowed. I started learning about what works on me, what doesn't ... and I bought my first pair of high heels to go with fabric I'd bought for a dress. The first few suits I made had only trousers, but then I started making skirts as well, to get twice as much wear out of each jacket ... and I wear them.
Somewhere in there I started buying nice underwear sets and wearing them consistently, whether dressed up or in jeans.
My ex was really resistant at first to my attempts to girl it up. I don't know how many times I heard "That's really not our style" before he learned to shut up.
I still make most of my own clothes, but have gotten over the I-have-to-have-made-it-if-I-wear-anything-pretty complex. Now I feel like I have a choice ... and that's a good feeling.
Well, that was more than anyone wanted to know. ::) But it's been a big theme for me, so I was interested to read about your adventures in Femme-Land.
Re:If I go any more feminine I am going to have a heart attack! jillieb44: While I can't envision myself in a skirt or heels anytime soon....I just discovered that hipster pants really fit me better than any other women's pant out there, not to mention make me look younger and more in style.
And I did just buy a pair of leather pants... and if you knew me in real life, that would SHOCK you, LOL :o
Jillie
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