Re:My Story JaiJai: Thank you everyone, for your concern and advice. Yea you are right, I've had alot of time to reflect, and I agree, I wouldn't want to be with a man that I really didn't know like this. I never knew he'd even be capable of cutting someone like that, or that it could be satisfying to him to do so. :-\
The initial shock has worn off, I am eating a bit now, and like one of you said, I've thrown myself into going to the gym everyday which actually makes me feel alot better. I've got some good friends, who without, I may not have made it through my darkest hours..
And to be honest, the night I came here, I was at one of my lowest points. Reading everyone's stories and advice to each other was a great help to me that night... I woke up the next day in a different state of mind, where I realized none of this was my fault, I did everything to be good to him and treat him like a king, and if he is incapable of "existing" in a true, loving relationship, that's HIS problem. Yes it still hurts, and yes I still have my moments where I miss the Dan I knew.. but I am better now...And I do not even know this Dan anymore, he's gone.
Thank you forum, and members, I appreciate it all. ;)
Re:My Story JaiJai: Ugh, He continues to email me.. and call here and there.. It would be so much easier if he'd just stop all communication, afterall he wanted to break up with me..why doesn't he just go ???
Here's the email I got last night...
"Understand one thing Teresa. You may think the bond is broken and you may think I don't care for you or love you the same. I may not tell you things anymore and I will not confirm or deny anything but know this: Not all that I have done is as it seems and although you are hurting you must trust me that I made a choice that had to be made. I did the right thing and although you are paying for it now I will pay more. I accept what I have to do and what will become of me. My life isn't all smiles and chuckles and nothing can change that. You will recover from all of this and good things are going to happen to you. I will continue this path and whatever happens I accept; I am done fighting. I cannot and will not explain beyond this. If you ever trusted me than trust me now and believe that I have done the right thing for you."
Yea this is what I deal with, it confuses me so much! If he has to live in this "dark" place, and have sex with this dark goth chick, WHY does he email me this kind of stuff? *JJ cries*
Re:My Story ChiefWiggum: JJ,
Are you confused by his emails because you think he might want to be with you?
After thinking things over, you decided you don't want to be with him. I assume you were sober and of sound mind when you made the decision. Respect the decision.
Once you respect your decision, his emails will be easier to take. He can be as sorry/dark/hidden/sad as he wants. That should have no bearing on your future relationship with him.
Just my opinion,
CW
Santa Barbara, CA
Re:My Story sourpuss: unless he is a secret agent whose next mission is to assasinate a world leader by suicide bombing........
he's a narcissistic twat, go on without him knowing you've spared yourself years of similar nonesense.
Re:My Story JimB: Ugh. Repulsive people - the ones who leave for someone else and then try to justify it afterwards.
JJ, bottom line is he's a bastard, and he wants you to tell him he's not. He's trying to work through his guilt over leaving you, so in a roundabout way, he's looking for some kind of blessing from you for him to continue. There's no reason for you to give that to him, even if you are a kind soul. If it were me, my response to that email would be "Sorry dude, you're still an a*hole for doing this to me. Have a nice life." Probably better not to honor it with a response at all, though. Let him stew over it.
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