Re:Fall in love with somebody else while still married? JASPER: Now I can definatly relate to that bestfriend part that's the same way I feel about my ex I guess thats what keeps us holding on.
I think my ex is a wonderful friend but a terriable husband.
I just sent you a IM....
Re:Fall in love with somebody else while still married? JASPER: Just look up at the top of the page and it should say one new message just click on it and it should open.
Let me know if you didn't get it.
Re:Fall in love with somebody else while still married? JimB: I guess my question would be what is it about the OM that is so great that your husband can't give you?
I'm not a big believer in the term "falling in love". Falling insinuates that you don't have a choice, and you absolutely do.
There's really no right or wrong in this situation. You can go with the life commitment you made to your husband, or you can go with the powerful emotions that are drawing you to this other person. Or you can do neither, and just be by yourself for a while. Only you can decide which is right for you.
Re:Fall in love with somebody else while still married? considering: JIMB -- you're right... it is a choice. In fact the OM said just that. He said we choose who to love... and I guess at the moment I'm choosing him. To be quite honest... do I have any clue this is real? No... he's leaving soon (for another state) and I'm actually going to welcome the change... only becuase I think it'll give me some perspective.
With my husband, I'm finding choosing to love him is very difficult. I've known him so long and built up all of these expectations of him that now, when most of those expectations have been unmet, I find I have a hard time loving him.
But there ARE things about him I find wonderful -- it's just the big ones... the ones I understand (now finally) that I must have in a life partner, he's lacking. Take affection -- we had a conversation the other night about our lack of affection. He doesn't like to cuddle, for instance. It makes him hot and sweaty and he feels uncomfortable. And he doesn't understand why I can't understand this and accept it. But why should I? I must have a husband that wants to touch me. Am I being unreasonable? Is this too much of an expectation?
Ehhhh... I'm rambling...
Re:Fall in love with somebody else while still married? Brian75034: Considering,
you are just going to have to decide whether you want to be married or not and if so, are you willing to work on the marriage to save it.
Plus, it sounds like you are basing whether you divorce your husband or not by whether this other relationship works out or not. I might be wrong, but if so, that is the wrong way to go about it. You are bound to "lose" in the end.
Marriage is tough- divorce is tougher.
B
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