What I want hurting: Well I have been split with my ex of 5 yrs for about 2 months now...it was hell, pure hell on earth and it gives me heart palpitations to think of some of the thoughts that went thru my head. Well about 3 weeks ago I told him I was letting him go...and I actually did (big surprise)...well all of a sudden he is calling me, coming to see me, spending the night (no sex tho)...etc etc...Now I feel more in control of the situation and here is what I want from him if we decide to try again and I won't settle for anything less.
1. he has to take care of me sometimes (back rub, cook etc)
2. he has to be willing to satisfy me in bed...it's always been about him, and I faked it alot, but no more..I have to be strong and tell him when it's not cutting it for me. foreplay would be a good start...
3. he has to compromise on what we do, where we go, what we watch..again it's always been about what he wants.
4. he has to take an interest in my life, ask me how my day was, what are my goals, et etc
4. if he ever lies to me again, stands me up or cancels plans at the last minute - I will disconnect all contact..(I hope I can keep this one).
5. we both have to be 100% honest about everything with each other, no more secrets, no more "secret" friends...
He would always say that I was too jealous to accept him having female friends and yes I will give him that, but lying about it is just as bad if not worse...If he can't be honest with me about who his friends are, then in my mind there is something weird going on,,and if they are only "friends" like he always said...hey bring them over for dinner!!! ha ha...
Well I hope that I can stick to this..I have to be strong and stand up for myself and my needs or I will be a doormat my whole life...hopefully he won't stand me up tonight!!! I just had to write this somewhere ..sorry to bore you all!! comments are very welcome!!
Re:What I want Druid13: sounds good
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Re:What I want AmyMarie1972: You go girl and make sure that you stick with what you want because remember if he cant give you these things there are plenty of guys who can.
Stay strong
Amy
Re:What I want mine: i went through something simalar
the hard bit is sticking to it..
because ...they feel ...that you are just accepting they behaviour...if you let them back into your life
they wont change
and why should you change from the good person who you are ....just because of their behaviour.....
he should apreciate you for who you are
Re:What I want BlindOracle: That sounds entirely reasonable.
