when does it get easier? tatortot0601: I have been away from my ex for over 2 weeks now. He had decided to split the 2nd week of April, but I was still in Texas where he was. I left May 1 for Illinois. I have our 2 children and my 3 year old cries for Daddy everyday. It frustrates me and just makes everything harder. We were together for 7 1\2 years and at 26 he is having a midlife crisis and he is hanging out with 20 year olds, one of the people is 19! She just went to prom, he just had his second child, what does he think he has in common with them? Oh yeah, he just boughta new 2005 mustang convertable too, knowing it would hurt us so much financially, but he did not care! This is so incredibly hard, thank goodness my 7 month old does not know any better so she is not looking for him. I just wish I knew how to make the pain stop, I have to see him in July, we are baptizing our daughter, and at this point I know July is far away, but I think I will just loose it seeing him.
Re:when does it get easier? AmyMarie1972: Hi,
I know what you are going through, have been there myself. Mid-life crisis, younger woman, hanging out with the guys.
It is difficult I know but believe me when i say it wont always feel this way. You will get through this and you are not alone with this pain. Everyone on here has gone through or is going through it.
Dont even think about July, just take it one day at a time. no need in looking at the future just yet. You have two kids who really need their mom right now. They will help you through it.
My 3 year old misses his dad like crazy and it hurts so much to see him cry. All that you can do is speak with your ex about this. Try and get him to understand that the children need to see him regularly.
This of course will make it harder on you but that will pass. my ex see's the kids every day and so sees me every day but I am content with my life as it is and i was with him for 13 years.
Keep on posting and reading this board, it really does help.
Take care of yourself and remember that it will get better
Amy
Re:when does it get easier? tatortot0601: I want my ex to see the kids, but he has chosen to stay in TExas, he talks to them everyday on the phone, but i just feel like that is not good enough. HE complains that he will not have the money to come and see them if I file for child support, but i can not financial raise them on my own, i am a teacher and teachers dont get paid nothing! I remind him he can always trade in his car he is paying 526 a month for. I grew up not knowing my dad and I know the pain that caused me, so I dont want that for my kids! I dont know....
Re:when does it get easier? AmyMarie1972: There is not much that you can do. You cant make a guy want to see his children.
What a jerk!!!!!
All that you can do is be there for your kids. The will adjust to the situation in time. He is using the child support as a way of blackmailing you. If you dont file then maybe I will see the kids more.
Make sure that you do file for all the money that you can.
look after yourself
Sending a big hug your way
Amy
Re:when does it get easier? gulfcoast: You will make it through this......you will learn a heck of alot from it.......as far as the kids........I agree with amy you can't make him be a father....but you can always be a good mother and put your kids first.....leave the door open to their father as far as seeing them....even if he never takes the time to do it.....child support is his responsibility....he must help you support the kiddos.....don't let him manipulate you by saying he can't afford to see them if you want support...that is lame.....just put your kids first in your life and they will be fine.....try not to have every guy you date in their lives as some do....this is not good....not saying you would do such a thing.......but you may rebound a few times and think you are in love when it is just a cheap fling........you will make it through this....just be strong and realise now that it is going to be hard......running never answers this problem....stay true to yourself girl....you will be fine....there are lots of people on here that will help you with emotional support.....
just my 2 cents from the gulf coast......
p.s.
never forget to smile......
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