Re:Help? sourpuss: i'm not sure it matters how serious their relationship is, if this woman is spending enough time with your kids to cause you concern, i think you should know what sort of person she is. would you let them go to other kid's houses without knowing at least a little about those kid's and their parents?
could you handle a cup of coffee together (without him)? it may put your mind at ease.
and it will probably chap his @ss to no end.
Re:Help? Chey: At many points we have to learn to trust the instincts of the man who we chose to father our children. You are trusting him with your most precious commodity..you're children. So if you can trust him with your children, trust his choice in partner to be (if not YOUR choice obviously), a sound one. We obviously hate the fact that he HAS another partner in the first place, but in this position, where meeting her would cause such angst, just go with your need for distance, trust that she's a decent human being, and meet her when you're ready.
Chey
