Re:Help? AmyMarie1972: If you have concerns over this then yes you should speak to him about it. Try to do it in a friendly manner and not to get annoyed if he starts to come back with anything hurtful. if he does then just walk away and try again later. Point out to him that it is in the best interests of your daughter as well as eachothers that you get along as you will be sharing her life forever. Even when she is all grown up, you will still be sharing things like her wedding day, her graduation, birth of her children.
Just tell him that you are ot too happy that your daughter is spending more time with his girlfriend than him and see what he says.
Good luck
Amy
Re:Help? Chey: Just to chip in on both sides of this coin. I'm actually a very active involved step mother. When I met my step children we fell instantly in love. He has a boy and girl, and since I dont have my own children I totally took to these 2. Their Dad was not a very involved parent, preferring the seen not heard parenting school. Watching sports, please be quiet..etc...so the 3 of us did everything together. Cooked together, I bathed them, picked them up from school on "our" week-ends. Gardened together..etc.
Their mother and I clashed big time in the beginning before we realised my husband was telling a lot of untruths about both of us to the other. We're now very good friends, I call the children each Wednesday at their Mom's, and she's flying them out to see me some time this year.
Just wanted to share....and hope that with a little friendly chat as Amy suggested, you might be able to let your husband know you would like him to be more involved
Chey
Re:Help? Chelle30: Chey,
Thank you, it eases my mind a lot to know that. I do have a question since you know both sides of the coin. Would it be wrong of me to try and contact my ex'x new gf to talk about my daughter? I have no problem with her, am actually, reluctantly, happy that she seems to take a bit interest in my daughter. I just don't know what would be considered right and wrong in this situation.
Chelle
Re:Help? Chey: Hi Chelle,
From my perspective, I would say it's perhaps too early to speak to her. You're not quite sure how serious this relationship is just yet I take it?
Perhaps when/if things move on with them, then introduce yourself to her, and let her know if she has any questions regarding your daughters care that you're happy to help. I would have been very grateful for that from my husbands ex.
Chey
Re:Help? Chelle30: Chey,
Thank you. You've eased my mind. I really don't know how serious the relationship is and in all honesty, I don't know if I'm up to speaking with her!!
Chelle
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