Re:*Sigh* Yuck! Blah... jt5639: You are all so right and so wonderful. Thank you.
I asked the ex how he could move on so early - he said (of course) "it just happened" and then "I feel like I have to see where this will go"
But he did not have to see where we could go? He talks as if these weren't decisions he's made. "It doesn't feel right anymore", "This just happened", etc. Anyway, I digress...
I know I deserve someone who will work as hard for the relationship as I will. I just thought he was that person. And this has all happened so fast, sometimes I feel like I'm drowning, just trying to keep my head above water...
jt
Re:*Sigh* Yuck! Blah... AmyMarie1972: JT,
I know the feeling but hey you will make it. You are a strong person and we are all right behind you.
You take care
Amy
Re:*Sigh* Yuck! Blah... jimloveless: [quote author=jt5639 link=board=20;threadid=11530;start=0#msg93624 date=1116112734">
I know I deserve someone who will work as hard for the relationship as I will. I just thought he was that person.
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i hear ya, jt. i totally hear ya.
my wife had me convinced that she was trying her guts out to love me. while she was calling her OM several times per week. 90 minute calls... 50 minute calls.
Re:*Sigh* Yuck! Blah... tatortot0601: I know how you all feel! I was not even gone and he moved on, took his little g/f on a weekend trip to Austin, never took me anywhere in 7 1/2 years. How wonderful! I asked myself what i did wrong, why he did not want me, but there was nothing i did or said, he made the choices and i had to accept his choices and he will live with that one day when he realizes he messed up, I wont have to live with that! You wont have to live with that either.
Re:*Sigh* Yuck! Blah... ChiefWiggum: jt,
you got it good! My stbx started seeing the other guy negative two weeks before we broke up! haha...
He made the decision to leave you and he made the decision to start a relationship with the other girl. It did not "just happen." I'm not sure if that comes out right in email... let me share a story with you to make the point:
My stbx made three major "screwups" in our relationship. 1) kissed her ex boyfriend while we were dating 2) came home drunk after bar hopping with a "frat boy" - we were married 3) started going out with and once kissed her teacher from University of California. Except for those three things our relationship was good. When I described this to someone, she said to me "Wait. That last one was not a screwup. This was a decision she made. She is the kind of person who wants to do these things. Not an accident."
So that's what I mean when I say "he made the decision."
CW
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