Re: How do you deal with your new loves ex? rhondam71: You didn't mention that you were going to run as fast as you can from your BF...???
He lied to his wife and you and actually left her with no word and NOW he lets her have a key to your home and she's been there without your knowledge. I would be spitting mad.
Exactly what trait does he have that wipes out the horrible actions he took?
Sounds like if you stay with him that you will gain a liar and a life of drama.
I hope you run.
Re: How do you deal with your new loves ex? ddgissi: [quote author=Sherry link=topic=11555.msg93821#msg93821 date=1116176410">
And, I would never lay a hand on a child that is not mine.
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So, who WOULD you lay a hand on? I got a STBX ripe for a spanking! I can pay you in chocolates! ;D
Re: How do you deal with your new loves ex? scraft: I need to clear a couple things up for Boa and Rhondam. First thing first I knew that Ben had a child when we got together that wasn't any sort of problem at all, but I didn't know that he and Anna (Baby's mama) were in the let's try and make this work mode when I entered the picture. It was more Ben wanting to make it work then her which honestly I understand he was doing it for his little girl. Secondly Ben and Anna were never married. Lastly, there is no court order for child support or visitation. I keep urging Ben to take this B!tch to court, but Anna is so unstable it's hard telling what she'll do. She wants nothing to do with him unless it involves money, or her getting something. I agree whole heartly that he should be paying child support with or without a court order. But, she was wanting $150.00 per week for one child. Can we get serious please? She knows that a judge would never order that amount, but that's what she wants. So, without any kind of order she gets to play games and call the shots. Zoe (The baby) turned 2 last November, and mama was s'posed to work that day which left Zoe at the babysitter on her b-day, so Ben called Anna the night before asking if he could have her for the day to get her pictures done ect, ect. and also it would've given me a littlel time to bond with Zoe myself since so far I haven't been able too. The b!tch decides that she was taking the day off work, and they were going to breakfast, and to get Zoe's pictures done ect. But, the thing that pissed me off was Ben paid for everything! Because if he hadn't Anna would've thrown a hissy fit, and daddy wouldn't have been able to see the baby. That's not even mentioning the fact that we haven't heard sh!t from the b!tch since November nor have we seen Zoe. What kind of parent would keep their child away from their father for really no reason except she doesn't like his new gf? She's vindictive and evil I swear, and she gave me a bad wrap to boot! She and I both are capricorns, so Ben just assumed that I'd be just like her. He knows I'm not now, but the first few months were quite rough. Ben is a damn good guy, but understandably he's trying not to rock the boat because she's psycho. We don't even know where Zoe is that's how freakin bad it is. Ben thinks Anna is in Kokomo doing an intership, but whether or not Zoe is with her we don't know. She could have left the baby with her parents. I so dislike this woman I think I wanna spit! Oh, and btw laying a hand on someone else's STBX doesn't sound appealing LOL.
Re: How do you deal with your new loves ex? Suddenly Single: Well HUGS to you because I know what it is like to deal with a crazy ex. She hates me because I'm with him and he's happier with me than he ever was with her and they kids like me. She is vindictive, hypocritical, selfish and just basically out of touch with reality.
First I would say - CHANGE YOUR LOCKS if you haven't done that. She has NO legal right to have keys to your house unless her name is on the title and she is paying for it. I didn't read all responses here so that may have been covered or you may have already done this. If you haven't done so - I would because if she is that crazy who knows who she could have given the keys to.
I would say the best way to deal with an ex who is crazy is to first ..laugh at their behavior...(you have to or you'll go batty) and then try not to do anything to fuel it. Also, you need to stand your ground and be strong - let her know she cannot walk all over you. It will piss them off to no end and will cause more problems more likely....but at least they know you are strong and are not going to take S**t.
My boyfriend's ex says one thing and does another so it is hard to really "deal" with her because dealing with someone is sort of implying that they are rational to deal with. The best is just to handle the situation and diffuse as much as possible.
I could go on and on about this.
Good Luck!! SS
