Re:she dosent want me around chillywilly: thanks for the support everyone. especially smokin! never no how good freinds are till your down. And Id like to thank bubba for his awesome post "theory of women". Ive been in limbo for a month now with no ansewers and she had none. So I printrd out Bubbas post and asked her is this how u feel? She agreed 100% . I asked if it was too late to try and she said yes. We talked about a freindly divorce and she seemed to drag her feet some. Today I asked her if she had been thinking about us this past month. She says no I try not to think about things that make me unhappy.She said shes real good at blocking stuff out. Says shes just been keepin real busy.
Meanwhile Ive been bustin my butt tryin to keep us together. Living at a freinds and going crazy. I really just want her to stop and think before she makes a choice that will screw up all 3 of our lives.
Re:she dosent want me around chillywilly: Either way Ill live with her decision... dont have much choice now do I? I know theres no om and I think shell really regret this a few years down the road. I think Im just tryin to save all of us alot of pain. Maybe Im wrong...I just dont know. Ive changed alot in the last month both physicaly and mentally. But if she wont communicate then maybe shes just a lost cause.
Im trying to be overly nice to her till this is over... but dam its hard. I mentioned getting one lawyer and deciding together what we wanted. She talked about getting an apartment so I could move into house. But she says shes in no hurry to do any of it.
Re:she dosent want me around jjbswest: hi, smo-kin is a very good friend that I met on ojar. He is a goofball ;D but he helped me alot and I am sure he can help you. And, everyone here supports you too. Seems to me that she made her decision already. She may just keep you hanging around for her in case whatever she is wanting doesn't work out in her favor, whether it's another man or another lifestyle. She's in no hurry to do anything but make you miserable and your child confused. I agree with the above...focus on you and your child. You said you are trying to save all of you alot of pain...what about the pain you are in right now? Does she care about the pain she is causing you or your child? If she said it's too late to try, then you have your answer. Now, you need to focus on yourself. Good luck.
