How much do I tell him? twobeautifulkids: I emailed my tbx today to tell him that our son is sick. I also emailed with the diagnosis. My tbx did respond to me and seemed concerned for our son, yet didn't bother to ask again (we corresponded a couple emails back and forth about him seeing the kids) how our son was doing, nor did he call tonight to check on him or talk to him. He will see the kids tomorrow night for about an hour (his choice to keep it that short).
So my question is do I even bother to tell him when one of the kids is sick? Actually I got mad at one point today because he doesn't really have to deal with it at all now since he isn't living here. I wonder what the acceptable norm for telling the tbx about goings on in the lives of our kids should be.
Thanks for any input.
Re:How much do I tell him? Smiley17: Wow! Your life sounds like mine!
My stbx is the same way and I only share information on an as needed basis. My view is that if he only wants to see his kids in short visits, then he only needs to know the major stuff. If the kids are sick, I only tell him if it's something major, or if it's on a day he's taking them.
As with you my stbx sees his kids on a limited basis, his choice. He sees them two days a month. A total of 12 hours per month! Unless he attends our older son's t-ball games.
I'd only share information that he needs. There's not much of a need for him to know more than that.
Only my 2 cents...
-KB
Re:How much do I tell him? loshyra: TBK~
I think that you should let him know when the kids are sick. Mainly because if you don't, he can use it against you. Just keep it at the min that you can. Tell him something like "X (KIDS NAME) is sick, this is what is wrong...." if he wants to learn more then he can, if not then that is his own fault.
Re:How much do I tell him? twobeautifulkids: Thanks for your reply!
I guess he didn't technically NEED to know about our son's illness, but I told him because I felt he should know. There I go again thinking! I should stop that!
Also, in his defense, he will be taking the kids from Friday night til Sunday morning this weekend. We're starting an every other weekend schedule of that.
Re:How much do I tell him? twobeautifulkids: thanks! I guess I did the right thing. He just didn't react like I thought he would. Our son had this same thing happen to him a couple weeks before tbx left and it landed him in the ER overnight...very scary experience for all of us. I thought he'd show a little more concern because of that.
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