Re:why? charmed: Oh no Babygirl, I'm not over my ex. Our break-up is very new, only a few days. I'm attempting to let logic rule my emotions LOL
Re:why? mine: baby girl...
i dont know what his issues, are
probably date back to childhood.
but he is doing to you , what somone from his past has done to him
REST assured.....he his hurting........hurting like crazy.......hurting right back to when thease issues began....
and will continue to hurt...long after you are over him......
the problem is the more you love this type of person....the more they can not handle it...
feel free to pm me anytime
ant
Re:why? BabygirlM: mine- yes he does have many issues, ones that do go back to his childhood, but is that really a reason to treat someone so cruel who has given you nothing but love and constant support.
charmed- yes my breakup has only been since the weekend as well....this is the hardest part i hope
Re:why? Chelle30: Dear Babygirl
I have been away from my stbx for almost a year. When I first met him, I was confident and intelligent, or so I thought. My ex, well, after 6 years convinced me otherwise. He was fairly devoted, but boy, did that man know how to cut me to the bone with one simple word. I cannot tell you the amount of times I acyually ended up onmy knees begging him to stop, to show some other emotion besides frustration with me. (According to him, he was never angry with me even when he punched holes in the wall, or thru the vaccum "close" to me).
Emotional abuse hurts so much. And good lord girl, it takes longer to over-come it. Like I said it has almost been a year since I left him, and he still has the ability to make me hurt like no one else can.
Remember that you are in a better place without him. On the bad days, talk to someone, write or vent here, but do not contact him. Abuse is about control, and he will use that to the fullest extent. When you remember the good times, remember the worst time...I have to. I have one moment in particular, that I force myself to remember everytime I think that it might work, that I made the wrong decision....
You will get thru this, It will hurt and you will cry, but you are the better person, remember that!!!
Chelle
Re:why? BabygirlM: i have such an urge to call him right now....to yell and scream at him WHY DID YOU DO THIS....GIVE ME ANSWERS!!!!!!! but i know i will get none....i came to this site right away. because i was so close to picking up the phone. i cannot let him win
you are right chelle....it is about control and he knows he has it over me....but not this time...i cannot let myself contact him this time. it will be worse....i will be 10 times more upset when he just blows me off and gives me no answers to the millions of the questions i have about why he did this. please please i need to not call! :'(
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