Re:STBXW Was having affair. pluscachange: This makes me wonder, what are the more *subtle* signs of a wife cheating?
I mean, I know the usual "She starts dressing nicely. She takes renewed interest in her appearance". But are there things a bit deeper to look for?
Really I'm kind of curious more than anything. I still have a bit of difficulty believing a woman can be so totally devoid of passion, as my wife is.
The only reason I ask is that she has recently started ordering some things from Victoria's Secret, yet we rarely if ever have sex, and she is *never* interested in sex. Now, she may be ordering regular bras/panties (they do carry some, and I hear tell that they are good quality, which would explain why she'd use them as a resource), I don't know, so I may just be looking for something that isn't there, to make myself feel more justified when I deliver the papers to her (as per my story on OJAR when I first joined).
Re:STBXW Was having affair. jtim10: My stbxw told her cheating partner how much she liked to cuddle etc...... Strange because she never wanted to cuddle with me!! If your wife is spending lots of time on the internet, LOOK OUT!!
Re:STBXW Was having affair. jillieb44: If your wife is spending lots of time on the internet, LOOK OUT!!
Not necessarily. Though my stbx might agree. I spend a lot of time on the internet, doing research for my work, for my novels, writing, e-mailing a woman also a writer (we met online and have lots in common); researching parenting ideas, educational ideas, and the like. NEVER dating sites, never chat rooms, nada. Well the stbx was always bothered by my time online. I'm an avid reader, and the internet is like the whole world at my fingertips, I can look up and learn about anything in minutes. Okay, so I'm an info junkie, LOL.
The stbx was sure I was having an online affair or something. I was not. He had free access to my computer, the password to my emails, so I don't know what he was worried about. After our separation, I went onto a dating site primarily as character research for my next novel, and it wasn't until then that I actually started looking. Didn't really start e-mailing anyone until shortly before I moved out with the kids.
Well now that papers have been filed, heck yeah I'm looking, mostly for friends, but if something develops, great.
But just because somebody spends lots of time online doesn't mean they're cheating. It could be other things also.
Jillie
Re:STBXW Was having affair. jtim10: I agree, I spend alot of time online myself, and I'm not a cheater. What I meant to say was if they START spending alot of time, you know more then normal, it might be something to look into. My stbxw went from hardly ever on-line to every night, sometimes hours at a time, but being the trusting sort, and since she was acting as if she was happy, I didn't think much of it. Boy was I wrong.
Re:STBXW Was having affair. penguin: Ya, penguinMama is about as happy with him as I am. We are all just waiting for me to do something about this.
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